someone asks you for your opinion and then they get angry because they don't like what you think.
Why bother asking?
No - It is often possible to identify those people asking a question for validation of their own beliefs that are not really interested in contrary opinions.
Mark I don't like your opinion, how dare you disagree with me!
But really, why get angry about it?
To avoid the nasty situation I would have to lie....even if I said no comment I would be giving away my real thoughts and be no better off....it's just a stupid trap.
But it's not just a trap if you suspend your beliefs as much as possible, first, then listen to the other person.
You may not have to lie and say you appreciate their opinion when you really don't (not meaning YOU exactly - just you=the person involved in this)...that is, if you can actually respect what they're saying.
I think this is something that takes actual effort and practice and that usually (at least in North America where I'm from) people aren't being taught the skill of listening - while we are taught all sorts of things about expressing (free speech laws?) and how to do information output...
I have been in a dilemma, myself, trying to learn this better listening thing and suspension of belief - because nobody ever brought this to my attention and I had to actually go into classes about a half decade ago to learn how to start being respectful with other peoples' opinions...
I didn't really mean lie to appreciate their opinion I meant lie about my opinion to avoid hurt feelings of the person asking.
If someone asks my opinion I will usually give it straight, perhaps I am a bit insensitive but what I think is what I think.
If the other person actually listens to the opinion they have asked for, suspend their beliefs like you said, and take it in then it would be good for them, I just don't understand why people ask for an opinion when they don't really want one.
Yup - It is a trap. You will see a lot of that in the religion and politics forums.....
I think some people want a pat on the back, rather than constructive criticism. But who knows.
probably. But I just hate it when someone asks me when they don't really want to know what I think. It's like that old question 'Does my bum look big in this?'
I'm just having a moan really
Do you really want me to answer this question...
or will you hit me if i do?
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