Over on G+, someone asks me to search my posts and remove any reference to their name. Apparently she is e going through some messy divorce - details unclear and I don't care anyway.
The problem is that OTHER people reference her name in comments at my post. I can't delete or edit someone else's comment - the only way I could do this would be to delete my entire post.
I'm not willing to do that. I'm told that I "have no compassion" for refusing that request.
My feeling is that it is her problem. She can delete her G+ account and then all that is left is other people mentioning what might or might not be her name. I can't see how that can hurt her in any way.
Am i wrong?? If she has some privacy issue that goes beyond that - let's say that somehow her life is in danger if any mention of her name remains on G+ (ludicrous, of course), then let her approach G+ and have them "fix" it. I don't see this as my problem.
Compassion: sympathetic consciousness of others' distress together with a desire to alleviate it.
I would say that, at least in this instance, you do lack compassion... "...and I don't care anyway."
Does it bother you if others consider you as lacking compassion?
By the way, it's not as ludicrous as you might think. I have to keep all personal information of myself and my family off the internet for my wife's safety. When the circumstances that forced this started, we both had facebook accounts and such, but we were remiss to close everything down and lose contact with many friends. That's what we ended up doing, but this person may have reasons for keeping the account open.
Did you point blank refuse? or, Did you explain your reasons the same way as you have to us?
I do think the onus is on the other person to secure their account, rather than asking others to delete posts. I do not think you are lacking compassion as your thoughts are respectful to all others in your circles, rather than just yourself.
I am sure that if it was just one post in question, you would not have denied the request.
I don't care what her REASON is. I don't need to know why she wants this done.
Yes, I have explained this. I also said that it is unfair for her to ask me to track down her posts to begin with - let her provide links if she wants something deleted.
I don't need to know the nasty details of her problem. She has some problem, she's concerned about her account but strangely thinks that it is comments that matter.. if I were able to help her without destroying my own content, I would. That's what I meant by "and I don't care".
It sounds to me like you were willing to go the extra mile to help her, and when you ran into an issue you couldn't control (other people's comments), you did what most people would do - you told her, "I don't have power to do what you're asking me to do."
If it's an issue of threat, I'd urge her to contact her local authorities and make a report, immediately.
I've read very many of your posts and I don't think you lack compassion at all. I agree with you completely in this care. This woman's divorce is not your problem, nor is it your business or responsibility. Personally, I feel it's tacky on her part to even involve you.
I follow you Pcunix, and I generally like what you have to say. I do think you're a very direct person, sometimes impatient and maybe even irritable - I've wanted to send you a cup of chamomile tea more than once.
However, I don't think you're lacking in compassion. Sometimes other people are so deep into their own, uh, stuff, that they don't have proper limits, and they don't think about what they're demanding. You just ran across one of those people.
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