pursuing his/her own life and interests? Oldest children of large and very large families oftentimes are parents to their younger siblings. They are on 24/7/365, being at the beck and call to their parents and/or younger siblings. They have NO individual lives of their own. They do not have NORMAL childhoods and adolescence as other children do. While other children have a normative childhood and adolescence with friends, hobbies, and activities, oldest children in large and very large families spend such years, caring for and raising younger siblings. They are often parentified children.
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On the surface, they may speak "fondly" of their experience but inwardly and behind closed doors, they resent and hate their parents for robbing them of normative childhoods & adolescence, forcing them to become adults very young.