Stable Relationship: A Key to a Successful College Experience?

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   expatscholarposted 15 years ago

   One of Bertrand Russell's various proposals in Marriage and Morals (1929) suggests that the young should enter a rather relaxed form of marriage arrangement (i.e., instant divorce by mutual consent and no alimony obligations so long there were no children) for the purpose of bringing stability to their sexual lives. His basic premise was that such a stable relationship would free the young from promiscuity, hence, less distractions from their actual responsibilities....
   
   Things have change quite a bit in the past eighty years, eh?
   
   What is/was your experience like? Do you think your being (or not) on a relationship during your college years makes/made a difference on your academic performance as a student?
   
   PS Thinking about doing a hub on the subject.

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      cosetteposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      in my experience it was a very good thing that allowed me to focus on my studies without the distractions "free-ranging" can bring. plus at the end of the day you had a special person to share your day with. i do hope you make a hub about it because it is an interesting topic.

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   Dame Scribeposted 15 years ago

   I didn't have  time for a relationship in college my goal to graduate far outweighed personal needs good thing too cuz way too much homework n GPA to maintain.

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      dutchman1951posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I agree totaly with this statement, based from my experiences at UT. Austin.
      
      I dropped out of a relationship I started there in, and I did so much better; and later when I had just a friend type of relationship, we both did not get in each others way. We both had goals and were able to finish them well. It was great.

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   Blake Flanneryposted 15 years ago

   I guess you could be in a relationship with your tutor and it would be a benefit.  If you are in a relationship with a goof off, however it could be detrimental to your school work.
   
   Ask yourself what kind of person you are, and then ask what kind of person you want to date.

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   torimariposted 15 years ago

   My long-term relationship during college distracted me immensely. When it stopped, I was all A's.
   
   For me, and as I see it with my sisters, casual or serious relationships (perhaps these even more) are distracting as you have other obligations and they went attention.
   
   I decided after the bad relationship that I was so young and my studies were more important and I'd have plenty o' time to romance later on...I think college is better often without romantic distractions, especially serious ones.
   
   That's just my take tho.

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   expatscholarposted 15 years ago

   Thanks for your comments! Indeed, it is an interesting topic. In terms of my own experience, I had a similar outcome as cosette's.
   
   So far, however, it seems like the single-while-in-college-was-better-for-my-academic-performance hubbers are winning!
   
   Perhaps good old B. Russell was not right...
   
   Anyone else?

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   Ebowerposted 15 years ago

   I think that having serious relationships are fine at college....depending on your maturity.  Also, if you are at small college then I would suggest not to have one.  College is also a exploring time...learning about yourself.  It might be good to learn how to have a serious relationship, but if you don't know yourself yet then it's not gonna work.  In other words, it depends on the person .

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   Csjun89posted 15 years ago

   Bertrand Russell was quite a promiscuous one, having affairs everywhere
   
   I wouldn't use him as a moral compass
   
   That is not to discount his mathematical and epistemological triumphs

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   sneakorocksolidposted 15 years ago

   My son is a chem major and he will have a successful college or I'll drop kick him off the planet. He can just get over any sexual tension he might have because if he's fooling around that will be the least of his worries! Anyway I tell his girlfriends he has AIDS.

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   thranaxposted 15 years ago

   My grades only went up as soon as I was in a relationship. I was a slacker and she was an A student, I guess I felt like I needed to compete to keep up!
   
   ~thranax~

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