What was your childhood like and how was your particular birth order instrumenta

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  1. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 5 years ago

    What was your childhood like and how was your particular birth order instrumental in this?

  2. Cantuhearmescream profile image81
    Cantuhearmescreamposted 5 years ago

    My experience with birth order couldn't have fit any more closely with the Adler psychology theory. I was the youngest of three and I was spoiled as the baby and I have grown to have something of an entitled attitude (though I'm ashamed to admit it). My oldest brother was the path burner, he gave my parents their "first" experiences and I gave them their last. My oldest brother also has an entitled attitude but also a superior personality with it, which I do not have. My middle brother unfortunately was lost in the mix. He was neither the first to do anything nor the last and he grew to be very quite, somewhat withdrawn but very patient.

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Many youngest children I have encountered seem to have entitlement issues.They were pampered and believe that the world owes them.They believe that they must always have their way and are oftentimes inconsiderate of others. They can be insufferable.

    2. Cantuhearmescream profile image81
      Cantuhearmescreamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You're absolutely right and I am embarrassed to admit it, but would rather answer honestly or there's no point. But I was raised back when respect was taught & I have to say that I have adapted well, I just would prefer my own way, usually in deb

    3. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Adler has written some excellent articles regarding the birth order scenario.  Lucille Forer, back in the 1970s, has written a book on birth order.  An excellent, prolific author regarding the birth order experience is Dr. Kevin Leman.

    4. Cantuhearmescream profile image81
      Cantuhearmescreamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      In a "Theories of Personalities" course I took years ago, I was very impressed with how accurate Adler seemed to me in regards to my circumstances and I don't remember who, but I know there were some disagreements. I should refresh and check your ref

    5. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I have also written many hubs regarding the birth order scenario.   Regarding your oldest brother, many oldest children have the attitude of superiority and know it allness.My mother is the oldest of 10, she believed that she was ALWAYS RIGHT.

    6. Cantuhearmescream profile image81
      Cantuhearmescreamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I will certainly check the hubs out. I'm curious to see the comparison. Thanks!

  3. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    I am an only child of older parents.   My mother was 39 when I was born and they had been married 19 years when I came along.  Both of my parents had fallen in to alcoholism by that time so my childhood was fairly lonely with parents "sleeping" or whatever due to alcohol consumption. I spent a lot of time alone.

    My father died when I was 8 and that left me and my mother. She stopped drinking at that time and she was attentive and affectionate. She died of cancer right after my 15th birthday.  I was devastated.

    I remember being a little adult, trying to find some order in a chaotic situation.  I was also spoiled and used to having my way.  I have a tremendous sense of guilt for the way I treated my mother after my father died, wanting things we couldn't afford, and not wanting her out of my sight. I was petrified she would get killed or die leaving me alone.  I think I made her life miserable, frankly.  I was a terrible, selfish and manipulative teenager. 

    I was fortunate enough after her death to live with my aunt and uncle who had two sons - one older and one younger so I learned about living in a normal family.  I hope I have changed, I have certainly tried.

  4. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    I'm the oldest, my brother middle, and my sister last. As each child was born, the family structure weakened. Now it's to the point my sister still has no idea what structure I grew up with. Every school day, we had a schedule to stick to and each Saturday was cleaning enforced by Dad being home. Now, they don't even clean the house on Saturdays. What happened to my family and why didn't my siblings get the same treatment? But my siblings do show signs of the typical birth order traits.


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