Effect of Birth Order on You? Did You Wish You Were The Oldest or Youngest Child in Your Family?
I am the oldest and I know it shaped me to be more responsible and serving of other people.
Hm. I am an only child to my mother, but the middle child in the mixed family. However, I see myself as an only child, as that was how I was essentially raised. I never really thought about being the youngest or the oldest. Being an only child (for the most part) made me pretty self-reliant and creative. Since I lived in a very rural area growing up and usually had nobody to play with I had to come up with most of my activities on my own. I'm actually thankful for that as it's made me quite an independent person.
On the other hand, it did create some social anxiety and I don't have a very extended family network.
No as I was the middle child and fit in nicely; although at times I did sometimes feel left out.It has made me a sensitive and caring person who doesn't expect much out of life i.e. I am not materialistic
I am the oldest of 4 and all the responsibility landed on me...and my mom was the strictest with me...the rules were unbelievable. The youngest ended up with no responsiblity and no rules...so I guess I set the tempo. I always had to prove myself, which was tough because with my mom, you were guilty until proven innocent...but cest la vie...such is life. I survived and now it's nice because my brother and sister come to me whenever things go crazy and it's wonderful to be able to be there for them. I hated being the oldest back then, but like it now
I am an only child. Never wished to be the oldest because oldest children have no individual life to speak of. They are also inundated w/responsibilities from early childhood or before they are ready. They are treated the MOST DISPARAGINGLY by parents. They are cast aside like old worn shoes in favor of younger siblings. They aren't shown parental love nor attention. They must be on 24/7/365 for parents & younger siblings i.e. a slave.
Don't want to be youngest because youngest children are babied & pampered. They are infantilized beyond an age when it is appropriate. Youngest children are treated more preferentially by their parents much to the chagrin of oldest/older siblings. Youngest children are catered to so much that they become selfish. They are attention seeking & not expected to do much or assume responsibility.
Being an only child helps me to be resourceful & creative. I was never lonely-had parents, cousins, & friends as companions. Being an only child helped me to become universalistic in scope. To me, family doesn't mean blood, it means a commonality. As an only child, I can choose the family I want & based upon common interests. Being an only child helped me to be fiercely independent. I can be alone for period at a time. I relish it- I can spend time writing, drawing, cleaning, working on the computer, reading, & other solitary pursuits which would immobilize a person w/siblings. I am BLESSED to be an only child- wouldn't change it for.....THE WORLD.....
Being an only child helped me reach out to others, particularly those in need. There is a world outside of & besides me. I am highly concerned about others & want them to have & live a good life w/o struggle. I don't like to see others suffering which explains why I am vocal & passionate about the family.
by Grace Marguerite Williams 6 years ago
What is the happiest and luckiest birth order imaginable?
by Gemini Fox 5 years ago
If you are an only child, do you wish that you had been part of a large family OR . . .if you had many siblings, do you wish that you had been from a smaller family or an only child?
by NiaG 2 years ago
Or if you had siblings did you wish you were an only child?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 5 years ago
As the YOUNGEST CHILD in the family, what would you want to say to your OLDEST SIBLING and PARENTS?
by Lisa HW 2 years ago
My theory is that most people seem to like whatever place they've ended up with among their siblings. Most also do seem to have a few minor gripes about it. Without considering anything you've ever read in books about birth order, what's your own personal take on your own place in the...
by Sumi 2 months ago
Why is that the youngest child gets most attention in a family?Not always, but usually that's the scenario. May be in 70% of the cases..!?!
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