To those of small families(1-2 children per household), what really IRKS and PEE

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  1. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 5 years ago

    To those of small families(1-2 children per household), what really IRKS and PEEVES you about those

    from large families(6 and more children per household)?Parents of small families believe that children should be brought in the best of circumstances financially.To them, chilldren should have a life beyond the bare rudiments; they should have THE BEST that is offered. Not so in large families, parents have a different attitude.They don't believe it is wrong if children have barely the rudiments, poor food, health care, & no educational/cultural activities. They believe that the latter is unnecessary, contending that their children just must DO, even if they DO WITHOUT, that's fine also.

  2. Liz Jimenez profile image57
    Liz Jimenezposted 5 years ago

    I disagree. There are families out there that have 1 child and little materials, and some with 7 children and everything they set thier eyes on.

    Just becasue a family is large does not mean that anyone is in lack. I think you're questioning economics more than anything - and differences in perception and parenting.

    It appears you feel money and accessories are most important in family life. I could be wrong, but I'm basing this assumption purely on what you have written, being that i have no other information. 

    However, there are many others out there that believe money is an addition or a bonus to the things that can be provided that cannot be paid for through financial means, such as morals & values, love & respect, compassion & understanding, etc.

    Some feel that an abundance of materials contribute to the "spolied rotten" mentality and lead to selfish behaviors. But you may not see it this way.

    I believe it has more to do with the things we instill in our children, regardless if they have a smart phone, ipod, tablets, pc's, and numerous other materials. You can take a child that has little belongings, but with adequate parental love, emotional & educational support, and morals & values instilled in the child through proper parenting, they can lead very healthy and successful lives. (Pres. Barak Obama is a living example.)

    On the other hand, there are many children in the world that have every material thing they've ever asked for, and do nothing with thier lives - no social or economic contribution what-so-ever.

    Again, I believe there's a lot more out there than just buying a child everything they ask for. Currently, I don't make a boat-load of cash in year, but my children are blessed abundantly in so many other ways. They are well-behaved, gifted/advanced students, they are loving, compassionate, respectful, loyal, wise, musical, artisitic, humorous, and so much more. I'm grateful that they have learned to value life and each other, more than placing value in belongings.

    Just thought I'd give my opinion as a mother who has a number of children somewhere between the 2 & 6 you offered as examples - I'm also not poor or rich. I care more about thier spiritual, emotional, mental & physical well being, than I do about how many things they've acquired. I'd rather my children have more of what they can feel and less of what they can touch, rather than the other way around...

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Parents of large/very large families believe that it's normal to live in socioeconomic want & struggle.They've the attitude that socioeconomic affluence is greedy,self-indulgent,&unnecessary.That's the typical consensus of parents from such f

  3. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 5 years ago

    Ms. Jimenez, you have succintly summed up the large family philosophy.  You have authenticated what I have wrote about large families in my hubs. Average parents of large/very large families(6 children or more) vehemently contend that there's nothing wrong in bringing up children in socioeconomic struggle &want.They also believe that children are satisfied only the basic rudiments of life.They further contend that anything beyond the basic & bare rudiments are greedy, selfish, self-indulgent, extravagant, & unnecessary. 

    Parents of large/very large families do not see higher level needs as important. I've observed large/very large families throughout my life and that is what the overwhelmingly majority of parents of large/very large families believe.They DON'T cultural and educational activities important for their children.They DON'T see dancing, music lessons theatre, and the arts as important to children.They DON'T not see going to restaurants and travelling as important either. In fact, they view these things as an utter waste of time and energy.The sociocultural milieu & environment of the large/very large families is living, if one can it that, at the lowest, most basest, even primitive level.

    Parents of large/very large families really are unconcerned whether their  children have things & amenities beyond the rudiments. They aren't capable of comprehending better socioeconomic and material standards of living & what it entails. Children from large/large families are socioeconomically in addition to being materially deprive in comparison to other children.It's quite normal for them to consume inferior quality of food--powdered and can foods because freash foods are costly.They seldom have meat and fish because they are expensive.They consume meat byproducts.Oftentimes they go WITHOUT food as there is not enough food to go around in large/very large families. The only time many children from large/very large families have decent meals is throughout either school, church, or government assistance programs. Children from large/very large families DO WITHOUT materially.That's par for the course.They have insufficient clothing that is ill-formed,unfashionable,dowdy,castoffs, throwaways,& from run of the mill secondhand stores. This makes them STAND OUT from other children but in a negative way.They must work, from childhood, for things that other children have.


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