What are the 10 rationalizations that couples make for having large families, kn

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  1. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    What are the 10 rationalizations that couples make for having large families, knowing full well that

    their children will grow up in poverty & want, lacking for even the necessities such as proper food, clothing, medical, health & dental care in addition to being deprived of a normative childhood/adolescence & finally, having to forgo education in order to work early to support such parents?


  2. profile image0
    Fire8stormposted 4 years ago

    I don't think parents necessarily acknowledge such concerns or think about them in this way when increasing their family.

    Most, I assume, are taken with the idea of a new addiction to the family and growing a family supportive bond with many brothers and sisters rather than looking at this side of it.  Some may have some concern but feel it will be okay and they will find a way.  Others feel children are a gift. 

    In the UK, often families receive more money from benefits when they have more children along with the opportunity to request a larger house, which I cannot deny I feel is a driving force for some when deciding to expand their family.

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Well, that's the problem, they really DON'T take into consideration the negative, even harmful ramifications of their profligate reproduction.Such parents DON'T use intelligent reasoning but iINSTINCTUALLY ACT!

  3. askformore lm profile image64
    askformore lmposted 4 years ago

    I am from Denmark (even though I now live in another country).
    In Denmark we have an old saying: The rich have a lot of money. And the poor have a lot of children.

    Well those days are over.
    I don't believe that there today is a significant difference in the number of children in rich and poor families. (And it could be claimed that there are no poor families in Denmark).
    All (rich and poor) families receive each month $150+ per child. The families with many children gets an even higher amount. Single parents gets almost the double amount. Hospitals, doctors, and medicine are free. Education is completely free (from the age of 16 the kid even gets a small salary). Universities are free, and students get a decent salary while they study (max 5 years).
    The mother gets a government paid salary the last 3 months of pregnancy, plus the first 6 months after the baby is born.
    So the question is: Do all these perks inspire a family to get more children? I think. "not".
    I can't give you 10 reasons why some families decide to have a lot of children. But I actually believe that there could be many more than 10 reasons why someone deliberately chose to have a very big and happy family.

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      It's completely unthinking & illogical to have a large family. Kids in large families grow up in poverty & want w/o basic amenities. They DON'T have the things that other children have.They've hard chidhoods & hard lives due to parental i

  4. maven101 profile image78
    maven101posted 4 years ago

    You seem to have answered your own question in the negative...Just ask the question without all the progressive predication...

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Not negative at all, but THE TRUTH. Kids in large families grow up impoverished/in want w/o basic amenities. They've NO childhood/adolescence like normal kids.They DON'T complete their education, being the less educated.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Just because one acknowledges the reality of the costs/expenses that come with having children doesn't make them negative. Bringing a child into the world whom one is unable to provide for is a form of child abuse in the eyes of many. It's selfish

    3. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Mr. Dashing, you & I are in congruence.  Intelligent/educated people THINK & PLAN before having children while unintelligent/uneducated people ACT w/o considering the consequences.  So what if the children are IN WANT; it what the "parents" w

  5. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    I don't think many would be parents plan that far ahead. They simply say they (want) children and start having them. If people really gave it any though there would no such thing as teenage mothers or people would be extremely selective with whom they have sex with.
    I know of a Mormon family that had 8 kids. I believe they viewed them all as "gifts" from God and they didn't believe in using birth control. I've heard that some Catholics also do not believe in using birth control.
    Some people came from a large family and they loved it! They want the same for their own children. Most poor kids don't really know how poor they are as long as they have a roof over their head, food on the table, and clothes on their back. Most of their neighbors are in the same boat that they're in. It's oftentimes not until one wonders outside of their circle that they realize just how poor they are or were during their childhood.
    Awhile back I read an article which stated in the U.S. it cost approximately $350k to raise a child to adulthood. Naturally they made a lot of assumptions with regard to spending money on dental care including braces, medical checkups, new clothes, shoes, annual family vacations and social activities, college savings plans. The truth of the matter a lot of families don't do many of those things. Some families live on beans and rice, or depend on food shelters, and handouts from the government throughout the children's childhoods.
    When people want to have children they make it up in their mind that they will "find a way" to make it work. Very few married couples use "lack of money" as an excuse for not having the children they want.
    I once overheard one woman saying to another; "Girl it will never be the perfect time to have a child. You just have to go ahead and do it."

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      What you've stated is SO TRUE. Sadly so many DON'T think re:parenthood but act instinctively & unthinkingly.  Again, THAT'S THE PROBLEM.  If more people thought about family planning, children wouldn't grow up in LACK. Just mindless breeding!

  6. Old-Empresario profile image78
    Old-Empresarioposted 4 years ago

    Most of the "rationalizations" are misguided:
    1. Assurance of legacy (being remembered by posterity)
    2. A belief that siblings enjoy growing up in large families
    3. Religious reasons (no birth control, "be fruitful" [to grow the faith], etc.)
    4. "I love babies and want more" (irrational and selfish psychosis akin to hoarding)
    5. Hope for government assistance with more children
    6. Serial relationships (many children sired by different partners for more child support)
    7. Need for free labor on the family farm
    8. Male hubris; desire to prove one's potency (common in third-world cultures)
    9. Family tradition
    10. Showing off one's affluence

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Succinctly intelligent answer as usual, Old-Empresario esp.#s 2,3,4,and 8.  Having large families is INDEED PSYCHOTIC.  No intelligent, rational thinking person has a large family!

    2. Old-Empresario profile image78
      Old-Empresarioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Cheers for the compliment. It was a good question, so it was fun to answer. Just out of curiosity, is there something that caused you to feel this way about large families or ask to the question?

    3. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      It'is sad for children to grow up in the most harshcircumstances w/o even the rudiments of life.They DON'T have the things that other children have materially In addition to that,they're likely to be neglected & have to FEND for themselves YOUNG!


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