What are the main things that solidly middle, upper middle, and upper class parents do to ensure
that their children have lucrative careers, even their own businesses while lower and lower middle parents only emphasize that their children get jobs working for others at slave wages instead of attaining careers and their own businesses?
Often in these families communication, education, critical thinking, creativity, planning, and independence are highly valued, as is taking the initiative rather than being trained to be a worker bee. In these families, parents are more engaged with their children in teaching and guiding them educationally and personally. The children from these families are often shown what a good work ethic is by good example of their parents, if not the family business or line of work chosen by several family members.
It's not uncommon for people in lower financial classes to not have the information that they need to make good decisions for themselves and their children. Too often this only due to the parents' ill choices that they also unwittingly set as an example for their children. For example, if no one in the family has ever gone to college, had their own business, or even finished high school, they will likely not be of any major help in creating a financial and life success with their offspring because they lack information and may not have the knowledge or tools to obtain it. In addition, people like this tend to feel comfortable with people on the same level and any children involved are surrounded by bad examples of people who are not successful, independent, or financially stable.
While many of us take some things for granted, there is a large number of people who have never gone to college or a trade school, let alone finished high school. If they have no closely related or good examples of successful adults and a road map of how those adults became successful, they will likely follow the same unfortunate and well worn path of those around them unless there is some type of intervention.
Wealthier parents are oftentimes highly educated with oftentimes the minimum educational level attained being a Bachelors Degree. It is not uncommon for wealthier parents to have postgraduate degrees. Hence, such parents can convey more and a wider variety of knowledge to their children. Such parents also work in higher level professional and managerial jobs with some having their own businesses. This result in such parents emphasizing the importance of having a lucrative career and/or being an entrepreneur. They know the importance of having a career, not merely a job.
Wealthier parents inculcate their children with the importance of being a self-starter and independent thinker. They also realize the importance of having high aspirations regarding educational and career attainment. They further educate their children never to settle and to be less that what they could be. They also import to their children the importance of ownership and power in their individual lives. They convey to their children that they can make their own rules and that the world is their oyster. They teach their children to be proactive participators in their lives. They are of the mantra that one makes his/her opportunities.
Poorer parents imbue their children with a slave mentality. They teach their children that they have no influence, are insignificant and will never make a difference. They also inform their children to NEVER high aspirations because that is not within their socioeconomic station. They teach their children to make do, be satisfied with the crumbs of life, and to told as they are told. Poorer parents are oftentimes uneducated or have very little education. They really do not have the wherewithal to teach their children to aspire to have an education, a career, or their own business. They impart to their children that they are owned by society and the system as they are/have been. They cannot teach their children to aspire to better socioeconomic conditions because they are not in a position to do so. They teach their children to have the same lifestyle as they do.
For a start they live in good neighborhoods where the emphasis is on success in the present and in the future. Then there is schooling. In North Sydney, Australia you see the elite kids going to school in their nice suits and in summer wearing their boaters (English style hats). They are being groomed to go on to university and then into careers, usually in business. The friends they make in high school are very likely to be people they will do business with once they are out of school.
In Australia the emphasis is to go for private school education rather than public. Generally the pay for teachers is better at private schools and so they tend to get the best. Also students that are disruptive in private schools don't last long. They can be kicked out and end up in a public school. Meanwhile public schools have to put up with students that are disruptive. They can't be moved on until they finish their education.
Check out the movie The Breakfast Club for an idea of how things work in education in the USA. You have everywhere parents who feel real hatred for schools and teachers and pass this onto their children. Then they wonder why they and their children end up in dead end jobs.
Parents in Middle and upper Middle areas tend to keep a close eye on education and also are more willing to help schools than knock them.
Sport is another consideration. In the better suburbs it is the weekend glue that brings the parents and the children together. It also helps form community bonding. In poorer areas there is sport too but less equipment for it can be afforded and sometimes it is more haphazard.
What you have stated is so true. In my household, the emphasis was on education & other forms of intellectual activity. In my lower income relatives' house, the emphasis WASN'T on education at all. In fact they could cared less about reading.
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