What would your response be if your adult child informed you that he/she informed you that
he/she INTENDS to have a large/very large family(6 or more kids), knowing fully well the negative impacts financially, emotionally, & psychologically upon parents & particularly children?
I would support them either way, BUT if they are not in a financial position to have one parent work and live comfortable while having one parent stay home full time then I would do my best to reason with them. I think it is possible to have a large family where ALL members of the family are capable of being happy, healthy, and living out of poverty. However that is far and few. There is a phrase used a lot when talking about undesirable growing up circumstances. People often say "Well I was part of a big family/spanked/child of single parent/fill in the blank and I survived" Childhood and parenthood should not be about surviving. It should be about thriving. I would hope that I could convey that to my children in a way that would convince them to do what is best for both themselves and their future children. Life happens, but no one should intentionally set themselves up for failure.
I would try and talk some sense into them. This is the reason that so many single mother's with children become statistics. Children are not cheap to raise. Why put children in this type of environment when you may be able to have a couple of children and be comfortable and structured?
Although it happens everyday, children should not be born into poverty if the adults have any common sense at all.
THANK YOU,couldn't agree with you more.It's reprehensible & thoughtless, even evil for parents to have large/very large families.Children need individualized parental attention & should be born into an environment where there are many opportu
I don't see why it would be big deal if they are adults. It would be their choice. It wouldn't be like they were going to adopt or produce 6 or more children all at once. If they start building their family and it becomes too much for whatever reason they could always change their mind. I'm curious though, what negative psychological problems do children in large families have?
More likely to be fiinancilly poor/impoverished as there isn;t enough money to go around, even for the necessities.Consuming inferior quality food because good food costs money Having no medical/health care. Working in childhood to support family.
Well then, if money is the only real issue, I guess if they have enough then there's no reason not to be supportive. Brad and Angelina are doing fine, don't you agree?
it is their choice, we as parents can't interfere in their lives. After all, they are adult, they should know the burdens of large family
Yes, THEY should; hopefully, they would have the intelligence & foresight to have a small family which is benefiical emotionally, financially, psychologically, & mentally to the child/children involved. Only uneducated people have large famil
Best Answer Huntgoddess says
Well, the question claims to know the answer: " . . . knowing fully well the NEGATIVE impacts financially, emotionally and psychologically upon parents and particularly children?"
Why is that word, "NEGATIVE" included? Aren't there "negative" impacts for any and all decisions? Having a big family implies she or he will NOT have a small family.
There are also NEGATIVE consequences to having small families.
I will have to object to the implied derogation --- that large families are somehow not okay.
That is judgmental.
My answer: I would be filled with hope and joy if my adult kid or kids told me that they fully intend to have large families.
Children are the future. Without large families, there is no future.
I believe the U.S. and some other first-world countries are struggling with this very dilemma right now. We don't have enough people.
Actually, I'm pretty lucky. I do have several grandbabies right now, so it appears that --- even without the official announcement --- my adult kids are indeed working on raising large families anyway.
Thanks be to Heaven!
I would probably ask if he or she is financially prepared to support and educate that many children.
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