What can I do to become the best version of myself?

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   MarieLBposted 2 years ago

   What can I do to become the best version of myself?
   
   I sometimes wonder who I really am, and who should I be?  Should I concentrate on what I do, or how I feel inside?  Is being good at what I do as work enough, or should I also look at myself from the point of view that I am a useful member of society?  What's your view?

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   Besarienposted 2 years ago

   Whose life is this? It is yours. Don't let me or anyone else tell you how to live it. But here is something to consider, if multiple universes exist, then another version of you is taking every possible avenue which you have described that you are not going to choose yourself. Takes a lot of the pressure off doesn't it? Why not make this version of you the happiest one possible? Why not have fun, follow your heart, chase your dreams, and make the choices in life that make you smile the most? People who do that tend to be successful, and often fondly remembered, or at least, have few regrets!

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      MarieLBposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      No wonder you are so successful Besarien!  You are so wise! I had not even considered what I want, what would make me smile.  Thank you for bringing it to my mind.

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   tsmogposted 2 years ago

   Stop  . . . Look . . . and Listen. Don't argue or debate . . . Listen.

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      MarieLBposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your insight Tim Mitchell.  It is the way to learn, isn't it?

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      tsmogposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I am sure you realize I meant to your own self ;-) I do that from time to time. I have taken a deep breath for about 6 months now giggle + giggle with a nod of seriousness. Sorting through all those automatic thoughts can be trying & takes time .

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      MarieLBposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      No Tim, I did not get it the first time, but now I do. Thank you for caring enough to come back and expand for me.  Yes, these things take time, but then what better use of our time !!

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   Venkatachari Mposted 2 years ago

   A good question, Marie. Looking at your own self through introspection and listening to the heart can guide you to your goals. Listen and observe to people and nature. Do whatever you feel is good for you. You will find your own answers and your goals will be clearer to you by doing so.
   Wish you all the best and a Happy New Year to you.

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      MarieLBposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I am realising that I had let myself slip into the "racing mode" again.  It is what I know best, as I needed that in years past.  Now, I would be better served to follow the advice that you and other wise hubbers have given me.  I intend to do that.

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   MarieLBposted 2 years ago

   Thanks to Venkatachari, Besarien and Tim Mitchell. 
   I found the three replies insightful and useful.  I am taking the three replies into account.  Thanks again.

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