To all OLDEST children out there, why do oldest children seem to be so unlucky, always
getting the shaft, & receiving the WORST PARENTAL treatment out of all birth orders? Being the oldest is quite daunting to say the least. It is a birth order that very few people would elect to .....BE. Give analytical, forthright answers. Perhaps someone can write a hub on this.
I have a different perspective on it kind of. Because I was left alone so much and my sister was doted on - I developed much more initiative and will to learn things for myself than she did.
I was able to take care of myself when I left home young at 20. She never left home in her 20's. I was able to know what to do with a child already when I had one as I was her built in baby sitter due to the 10 year age difference.
At the time; I enjoyed that because I loved babies so we were very close when she was tiny. I'm not bitter because life's too short. Did I take the brunt of the neglect and emotional abuse - yes. Did I end up in a better position in life to empower myself though? Also a yes.
Kids who are too doted on, pampered and have excuses made for them as children, don't have the inner fire and drive that other ones do to free themselves and be who they really are when they grow up. They are more likely to follow a herd throughout life or to accept mediocrity or a job they don't really like etc.
Sometimes the older ones who are made to grow up earlier thrive better in the real world for the rest of their lives. I've seen this trend also among friends of mine who were in similar situations as myself. Of course every situation is unique -
Holding grudges or blaming our parents holds us back in life. Eventually what we do or who we become is solely on our own shoulders. If I had to choose to do it over again - I would certainly be the oldest and not the baby.
by Grace Marguerite Williams 2 years ago
Why are oldest children WORST OFF emotionally, mentally, & psychologically than either middle, &/oryoungest & particularly only children who tend to be BETTER OFF emotionally, mentally, & psychologically?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 6 years ago
Status of oldest children vary based upon family size.In small families, oldest children are more of the leaders and advisers while in large to very large families, oldest children are often unappreciated and put upon servants. What is your take on this subject?
by nanderson500 6 years ago
Would you rather be the oldest child, in the middle, or the youngest?
by swilliams 4 years ago
I Don't understand why... (Finish this sentence)We all have situations in life that we don’t understand, yet we keep moving through life. Talk about something you don’t understand. Mind you, that your question can’t be offensive and please no Hub score questions, I have come to realize that...
by Penny Godfirnon 9 months ago
If your were the oldest child in your family were you given huge responsibilities?Were you given responsibilites beyond your years and were you able to accomplish them or did you suffer from failing your parents!
by Jessie Watson 2 months ago
We already know that children can suffer from a full range of learning and mental disabilities if they have not received physical or emotional contact before the age of 5. Since 2017, there is more mounting evidence to support that birth order has some effect on the expression of intelligence in...
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