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Why do children from large families (6-more children per family) have VERY LOW o

  1. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 22 months ago

    Why do children from large families (6-more children per family) have VERY LOW or NO

    self-awareness nor self-confidence?


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    LoliHeyposted 22 months ago

    It may be because the parents are unable to spend enough time with each child--due to the fact that they have so many other children, and probably both have to work to make ends meet.

  3. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 22 months ago

    I don't see a lack of self-confidence. What I do see is not being self-centered. Too many people assume that self-confidence = narcissism.

    1. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 20 months agoin reply to this

      There is a lack of confidence. Children from large families have LOW or NO self-esteem because they are told that to have a sense of self is wrong, even evil.  They are also told that the group is more important than the individual.  That is SICK!

  4. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 20 months ago


    The culture & psychology of the large family is one where children aren't taught a sense of self, the importance of self-esteem, &/or the value of self.  They are told to always put others first & themselves last. They are told that they exist as a group, never as individuals. Individuality is never valued in the large family dynamic.

    Children in large families who assert a strong sense of self or individuality are derided as selfish.The concept of self is a total anathema in the large family environment. Children in large families are discouraged from becoming individuals in their own right. The large family environment discourages individuality in many forms: children must share clothes, toys, & even rooms. Personal space & privacy are non-existent in large families. Everything in large families must be done & conducted as a group endeavor. 

    Children in large families have no ownership over their lives.They don't have anything that they can call their own. Everything they own belong to each other. The large family environment is devoid of individuality & selfhood. Parents of large families imbue their children w/the premise which is similar to communism.There is no such thing as private property in large families & children are taught that it is selfish to have & establish their individual ownership of property & individual boundaries.

    Children in large families live in an institutional setting, never a private one like children in small families do. It is common for children in large families to live out in the open-being exposed to their siblings. It is also e normal for children in large families to live on atop of each other & in a crowded environment which is similar to that of institutions. In large families, everyone KNOWS what everyone else is doing. Children in large families aren't encourage to keep anything to themselves.

    Of course, this style of rearing induces children who have very little or no sense of self. People who come from large families don't value themselves. They also feel that they alone are nobodies while the group dynamic is more important than they are. They don't think nor act individually.They think & act in packs & groups. If one notice children & people from large family, they aren't individual thinkers; they only act if they are part of the group. They have a mob but not an individual mentality, mindset, & outlook.They are quite uncomfortable w/self & individuality unlike normal children from small families.