How can we shift our mentality of blaming the victim and not focusing on the

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   threekeysposted 13 months ago

   How can we shift our mentality of blaming the victim and not focusing on the
   
   wrong doing of the perpetrator. Why is that?? Whether its about revenge porn...stalking....public shaming...Can you offer a formula to change our victim blame attitude?

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 months ago

   
   
   I don't believe it's most people's intention to blame the victim.
   Essentially they're usually talking about being "smart" or "aware" when dealing with other people and not being so trusting. "gullible" or naïve.
   It's human nature to imagine what we could have done to avoid putting a "target on our back".  Being "street smart" is good.
   Pedestrians have the right of way but if someone gets hit by a car people will want to know if they "looked both ways" before crossing. None of us want to be "dead right" so we look first.
   No one has "the right" to break into your home but if you fell asleep with the front door wide open and your windows open, or you left your car keys in your ignition people are going to speak up and tell you how you might avoid it happening again in the future. The same holds true for leaving a purse/wallet unattended or counting one's money while walking down the street or an alley. It's dangerous for any of us to "sleepwalk" through life or operate on auto pilot without considering potential consequences of things that might go wrong.
   Crime prevention is about taking precautions not placing blame.
   I highly doubt human beings will ever accept the belief that they don't have any measure of control over what happens in their life. They will always ponder "what would I've done had different".
   It's really not about the victim but the listener/reader's fears.
   Naturally everyone wants criminals punished regardless!

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   threekeysposted 13 months ago

   Its a entrenched view of blaming the victim. I wonder if that type of thinking (consciousness) is a reflection of our tribal/herd mentality lying within our reptilian amyglyda ? I mean our herd mentality is to attack/blame the weakest/victim/target (of the pack/herd/group). This is how our animal siblings secured their food and lived to see another day. Just, how can we shake that attack/blame attitude off? Hmmmm....

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      dashingscorpioposted 13 months agoin reply to this

      As I noted I don't believe it's intention to "blame the victim".
      Most people try to take ownership of what they (themselves) could have done differently to reduce the odds of being a target. Clearly we all agree {the criminal} is to blame!

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      threekeysposted 13 months agoin reply to this

      Here in our country Legal Aid  doesn't have funds for the victims only the perpetrators. Arsy-versy to me. In other words, the bare bones of the judicial system appears to be against the target/victim.

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      dashingscorpioposted 13 months agoin reply to this

      Legal aid is for anyone being charged with a crime because our system presumes people are innocent until proven guilty.
      The state prosecutor/District Attorney (represents the victim) for free and they have much more resources than legal aid.

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