What advice would you give teenagers about parenting their kids when they grow u

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   LailaKposted 12 years ago

   What advice would you give teenagers about parenting their kids when they grow up?

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   colpolbearposted 12 years ago

   "Make their well-being your number one priority.  Never desert them and keep their best interests in mind at all times.  Try to be better for them than I have been for you."  Something to that effect should be nice.  Hopefully you'll be around to give them more specific help and advice when that time comes.  For now, try to improve your kid's character.  If you can make them good people, they're bound to be good parents.

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   shorty72posted 12 years ago

   I always say to my kids remember you will have kids one day. My son often says to me now I wasn't like that was I with his son.  I laugh and say do you really want me to answer that.  I say to them make sure your children come first always and make sure you have rules from day one.

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   cat on a soapboxposted 12 years ago

   I wouldn't try to give this kind of advice to my teen yet because she thinks she knows all the answers! I'll wait a few more years unless she asks for my advice.
   I think it is important to be available when your children need you, listen not lecture, and be a parent not a best friend when they are young.

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   win-winresourcesposted 12 years ago

   Tell your teenager to vividly recall their own childhood experiences.  Remember what made them feel loved, worthwhile, and valued.  Make a point to do the same for their children.
   
   At the same time, they should recall their own childhood experiences that made them fell bad, unloved, worthless or valueless.  Make certain to NOT do the things that caused that.
   
   Everyone should be treated with honesty and dignity.  To do otherwise is to devalue them.  Telling someone a lie is the same as saying that they are so worthless that you don't even have to bother to tell them the truth.

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   Sparkleaposted 12 years ago

   I would advise them, above all, to constantly tell their kids how much they love them, regardless of what is going on.  To teach them to say "please" and "thank you" as soon as they can talk.  To never verbally put them down, and to be diplomatic when they do make a mistake.  If they fail a test or lose a ball game, to hug them and give them encouragement. 
   
   I had my kids very young, and I had no idea what I was doing.  But I loved them.  I do see a trend where I have heard parents say, "I'm going to raise my kids the opposite of the way I was raised!"  That is so sad, because it means they resent their parents.    On the up side, I think, from generation to generation, when raising a child, the parent tends to avoid anything negative their parents did or said to them when THEY were being raised.  But, trust me, parents are human, and they do make mistakes.  However, valuable lessons are learned.
   
   I hope this makes sense!

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