How lenient should we be with biological parents visitations?

  1. missgel profile image59
    missgelposted 9 years ago

    How lenient should we be with biological parents visitations?

    When a part-time parent tries to demand when and how they will see their child[ren], even if it's to the inconvenience of the full-time parent, where should we draw the line?

  2. Newyork204 profile image59
    Newyork204posted 9 years ago

    I think that all effort within should be made for both parents to spend time with the kids.  Its not easy but it has been proven time and time again that kids need love and attention from both mom and dad.

    The other parent who the child does not live with should try to be reasonable.  He should not make outrageous demands on quick notice with consideration.  But the "full-time" should try to be as accommodating as possible understanding the situation in tough and planning every event or visitation at a scheduled time will not work out all the time.

    Keep in mind that these complex situations are why for a long time society frowned on kids out of wedlock or divorcees.  It really makes a mess of things.  Nevertheless we have become an open society that tolerates those things yet the repercussions like problems with parent visitations are still there to deal with.

  3. Lisa HW profile image64
    Lisa HWposted 9 years ago

    No parent is ever a "part-time parent", whether or not the child live under his/her roof or not.    Viewing the non-custodial parent as a "part-time" suggests believing that parenting is only about making sure children are fed, clean, and "babysat".

    The term, "biological parent", suggests adoption.  In an adoption situation the biological parent is not the child's parent at all.  The person who legally adopted the child is the parent.  There is no "part-time" and "full-time" there either.

    Respectfully, the wording of this question seems to attempt to diminish the significance/role of the non-custodial parent.  This assumes that the non-custodial parent has nothing that makes him an unfit or abusive parent.

    The ideal situation is for both parents to agree to a generous visiting plan with which both are comfortable, and then have that established in a court order.   Not having these arrangements agreed upon in a court order can leave too much room for misunderstandings and inconvenience.  On the one hand, a non-custodial parent shouldn't be expected to just "pop in" whenever he feels like it.  On the other, being a parent is inconvenient.  Custodial parents share their children with the non-custodial parents, and it can be unreasonable to expect never to be inconvenienced. 

    Without knowing the exact circumstances, it's difficult to be specific about "where to draw the line".  The best thing would be to work something out amicably (if possible) in court, and follow the court order.   That way there isn't any room for worrying about how flexible anyone needs to be.


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