How do you make people realize that you've grown up, and not a child anymore?

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  1. Shelbie Leigh profile image59
    Shelbie Leighposted 9 years ago

    How do you make people realize that you've grown up, and not a child anymore?

    I'm tired of being treated like a 15 year old when at 18, engaged, in the military, and an honor role student, I am clearly not a child anymore.

  2. allie8020 profile image70
    allie8020posted 9 years ago

    Hi Shelbie!

    It took a while for my mom to realize that I've grown up -- even after I got married, became a mom myself and got divorced. I was very resentful that I was being treated like a child even though I had graduated from college and was even a Director for a hospital. So, one day I just asked her to start treating me like a grown-up because I have already earned the recognition many years ago and that I deserved it.

    I thought we would end up having a huge fight over it, but she just said, "okay."

    I was surprised that it was so "effortless" to get her to admit my grown-up status. After a while, I realized that I was the one that needed to be convinced that I had grown up. Before that time, I was over-sensitive to being treated like a child because I still didn't feel like I was a grown-up. It took a while for me to get over those issues.

    My belief is that once you're convinced that you're a grown-up, then you are one -- and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

  3. mintinfo profile image70
    mintinfoposted 9 years ago

    You will always be a kid to anyone older than you. Only time will change peoples perceptions. Hang in there.

  4. elshiggity profile image66
    elshiggityposted 8 years ago

    I believe you are truly a grown up when you can successfully survive in the world on your own. Seeking approval from your parents or other people will just keep you in a young mindset. However, being engaged, in the military, and on the honor role has nothing to do with being a grown up.

    I was on honor role most of my school life, I've been a Marine (for a short period of time), I'm married and have a 3 year old daughter. I still believe I have tons of growing up to do still.


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