I can't get it out of my head lately. Everywhere I look there is another widdle iddy biddy boo boo and I want another one! I know it aint the right time right now for me to have another baby but... golly I gotta tell ya, it does not make it any easier when you have a 3 year old that needs other kids.
So going to the park or wherever there are other kids does not make it any easier to get having another baby out of my head.
Seriously, I already have their names picked out. Yeah, we are gonna have twins, boys no less. I know, I think I am going insane.
Is this my biological clock ticking because the first time I got pregnant it was a surprise! No ticking there unless you count the two minutes I waited for the test results. lol
Sandra, not surprised you have that craving. Especially here in San Diego where there is a baby boom going on. I have a hard time navigating the sidewalks due to all the strollers these days, and when did they get so big? I just love the triplet strollers where everyone else has to walk in the street to get around..... LOL..
I know right! It does seem like that, everywhere a baby. ZOMFG! I love those double/tripple jogger strollers too but my favorite is the mommy juggling a toddle, a baby in a stroller and a couple of dogs while trying to jog off the extra pounds.
I am with you in wanting another baby. Take it to the skull though Pro's and Con's. You only have 1, I have 4 and want another. Everyone thinks I'm nuts. I say if its in your best interest, go for it. If not, I'll send my little ones to keep yours company....lol.
I feel the same. My little boy is a year and a half now and I so badly want another one. I want them to grow up playing with each other, not fighting...and I know if they are too far apart they will never be friends. :-( My husband doesn’t want another one.;-(
My first son is only three months old and already people are nagging me about when my wife and I will have our next child. My answer is always that I am enjoying him; as you point out even feeding and changing him are a treat, all to see that little smile and hear the cooing and see those little eyes all full of wonder...
Have you had a good talk with your BF about all this? That would be a start. Think about how you were as a teen and then thinks real hard about what things you did and what things your Morgan will be doing that will be worse. That should get it out of your head for a little bit anyway. 5 years is not too long between siblings and it will make it easier on you and your budget when college time comes around.
We are essentially in quite a similar position - I was 27 when I got pregnant with Isaac (not entirely on purpose, but a delightful surprise), he was 4 a couple of days ago, and babies are starting to look very sweet indeed!
I loved mine equally. There is something about having more than one and that is the gift of sharing. They don't normally learn that until they are in kindergarden and the way things look in the financial markets there were alot of those who didn't learn how to share. I didn't go as far as my mother did with mysister and it as in treating us like twins and we were like 2 years apart. We would always wait until one of us opened a gift and we knew what the other would get --only in a different color.
My parents' youngest was a sort of surprise - my brother is only 16 months younger than Olivia, and Eleanor and I were only 5 and 7 when Bruv was born. They intended to have another, but my mother thought that, at 37, it would take her longer to get pregnant. It didn't (-:
As a grandfather of 6, I say have a baby! The love of children is not easy to suppress, and the financial worries go away with time. As far as caring for a baby, it is a delight, nappies, crying and all
You have to see when they were and how they were. Tubal Ligation is not tied, It is cut and burned and can never be undone. If it has been more than five years since you had tht done, it is irreverible. The doctor's done tell you everything!
having no children of my own,i feel perfectly qualified to offer advise on rearing children.in the animal kingdom it seems the calmest and best temprements are in animals that eat there young...(OUCH,did he realy say that,what a BAD man!)...
It gets rougher in a pregnancy as you get older - There is almost 20 years between my youngest and oldest. It's definitely something you should consider very carefully with the input from your other half.
Tying tubes - what a relief! No more lil surprises!! I'll gladly wait for the grandkids.
My daughter is 32 and just had her first child in December. Her pregnancy was so easy. I was kind of jealous there because both my pregnancies were horrible! She wants to have another one in about a year and hopefully that will be just as easy.
Having children is all good, however if you have doubts like its the wrong time, financially, I would consider carefully. A good way to have kids and money at the same time is to foster. In the UK you get paid between £300 - £500 a week. This also gives you good sense of achievement as you are helping others. The only major downside is giving the kids back to their parents.
In the UK we have a shortage of over 15000 foster parents. Not sure what the figure is for USA but I bet its more. All children need security and if you would like to help contact you local fostering agency for more info.
I had my first child at 32 and got pregnant again before she was a year old. Imagine my surpise when the Doctor told me that there might be complications because I had the hormone levels of a 40 year old women. I thought I had lots of time to have kids, but it turned out I didn't...just something to think about.
Now I'm waaaay to old and have to wait for grandchildren...just not too soon.
I completely understand where you're coming from. With one 3 year old, this is a good time to have another. My kids were all two years apart from each other, and the two years that I only had one child was incredibly hard. Kudos to all parents with a single child.
Having my second child made my life drastically easier -- no kidding. Like you said, they need playmates. Having the third was just perfect. There was a lot more cleaning and cooking, but much less emotional wear and tear. If I chose one to do something special with, the other two had each other.
That ticking is only gonna get louder until you heed Nature's call. The thing is, you never know how it might happen. You could get lucky right away, or not... We'll all be excited when we get the news! Good luck. MM
Do it, have another baby...my husband and I tried for years to concieve then we adopted (best thing ever) but I wish I would have started adopting earlier to have more children. So many lucky happy wishes for you and yours!
I have four future stepchildren. One is in Atlanta and is 13 years old, so when she returns from residential hospital, she will be with her mother. So technically - three. There's 5 year old girl, 7 year old boy, and 9 year old boy. My fiance had his vasectomy after the 5 year old because his ex-wife simply wanted to keep going while they could barely feed their four kids and currently is wanting more babies with her new boyfriend.
However, I'm 21 and I desperately want a baby. I understand the ticktocks, the desperation, etc. I also feel sad knowing I may never know the joys of pregnancy, a wiggling baby of my own, the diaper changing, co-sleeping, late night feedings, and all that comes with it.
I would definitely take the opportunity to have one more, if I were you and if I could afford it.
It's strange how these maternal feelings just grab you..... I was always wanting babies...... like always, i would only hear a baby cry and that was it..... I had 3 by the time I was 22 silly me...... then all the way through my life if someone would just hand me a baby I would be in heaven...... now though I like to hand them back, kinda got over it,but maybe it is some sort of illness I have dont know...... My poor husband, he use to be out of his mine with me.... as he earned the most money, he used to say how he could not afford it etc etc... your hub has really taken me back..... Everyone laughs at me as I always seem to be cuddling someone's babies, I love little black babies, and there are a lot around me oh they are gorgeous.
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