Can forgiveness be given so easly to a person who has hurt you as a child ?
Can it be given to a person who has molested you as a child ? 30 years ago ? And now he wants forgiveness .
i understand it is tough ..really tough , specially if someone molested ..but forgiveness is not just for that person..when something happens like this , it enters our minds and stays there..it is bonding both...forgiveness is first step to set it free..forgiveness is powerful..it frees us..the incident and other person no more controls how we feel about the incident..so forgiveness is important for ourselves too...
Forgiveness is just another word. Whether you forgive him or not, does not change things in him. It has already been done. Cannot be undone.
It is for your personal benefit that you should consider. Harboring resentment and hatred for whatever reason is like retaining the poison inside our mind. With this poison, the person cannot function healthily and happily. So long as this poison is not rid of, this person suffers from self torture and torment. It is a very destabilising experience.
It is only for the sake of personal well-being that the person "let go" of the hateful and unforgiving thoughts. By doing so, the poison is purged, freeing the person to live a new life of freedom. For this reason alone, you may forgive him.
Forgiveness is one thing, trust and safety is another. To forgive with one's heart is a good thing for the person who was hurt. It frees the abused person from the bondage of the abuser. The abuser has broken trust and proved themself to be unsafe. Unless the abuser has had a life change and proven to be trustworthy over a long period of time, it is not wise to enter into a relationship with that person.
forgivness is never easy not for anyone however harboaring hate inside only hurts you
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