In Your Opinion, Is It Advisable To Adopt A Newly Born Baby Or an Older Child, 3

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  1. Flavie Lolol profile image64
    Flavie Lololposted 13 years ago

    In Your Opinion, Is It Advisable To Adopt A Newly Born Baby Or an Older Child, 3 – 10 Years Old?

  2. profile image51
    Chosendiaposted 13 years ago

    I believe a new born, so you can teach the child.

  3. wychic profile image83
    wychicposted 13 years ago

    I believe it depends on individual experience, what kind of resources you have available for older children who may have past issues, etc. While it is true that a newborn baby will never know any parents other than you, I think the importance of that is quite overrated. My husband was adopted at 13 by his family, and not only did he fit in very well with them, his adoptive mother holds a very special place in his heart because she CHOSE to give him a home and a better life. I have recently gotten acquainted with some of his biological siblings as well, they were brought up in several homes and have had little contact with each other, but while they all remember their biological parents to some degree (all were adopted between 5-13), it is their adoptive parents who are truly family to them.

    Older children are often stuck in foster care and deprived of loving families simply because they're not considered "a blank slate", but there is still all the same opportunity to have a positive impact on their life as there is with a baby...the only difference is that they will remember what kind of impact you've had, and a baby will have never known a different world. For myself, I just can't justify sitting on a waiting list for a newborn when there are thousands of children already in temporary homes waiting for people to give them a permanent home and family.

  4. MMMoney profile image61
    MMMoneyposted 13 years ago

    i think new born is good ideas you can trained him fully. and also enjoy the fun of new born growth

  5. Emma Grimes profile image59
    Emma Grimesposted 13 years ago

    I haven't any experience with adopting but in my opinion i would recommend a baby. For the simple reason is you can see every step of the childs growth. See all the milestones they reach without missing anything and you can bring the child up the exact way you want that child to be brought up. An older child may have problems coming to you, they may have experienced some bad situations which may have scared them for life. If you adopt a baby you are saving that baby from any possible trauma while not in a caring home. But whatever you choose to do it will be your choice at the end of the day and i wish you all the best. A child can bring so much to your life and make everything so worthwhile x

  6. babiblu82 profile image61
    babiblu82posted 13 years ago

    I believe it may be easier to adopt a newborn because they do not know anyone yet, but there are so many older children out there that need a good home.  Some may have issues but I think if you can bring that child into a loving family, every child deserves a chance.  I think it is what you as a family are prepared to deal with in adoption. My mother and aunt were adopted as newborns and my brother adopted a little girl from China so I strongly believe in adoption and hope to adopt one day.

  7. Mother of Zeno profile image61
    Mother of Zenoposted 13 years ago

    I know that everyone says a newborn is best, but I will tell you now that anyone will adopt a newborn. That 3-10 year old will truly be able to appreciate what you did for them. You have to remember that adoption cannot be a selfish choice. No matter what your choice is, just be sure to remember you are making a commitment and providing a child with a family.
    Statistically, 3-10 year old's or "older children" as their known by foster parents and systems have far less chance of being adopted than an infant. Most of them will spend the next 5-10 years in foster care and when they become teenagers, many will end up in group homes until they are 18. I was one of the lucky few to be adopted at the age of 4, and my parents would have adopted my older siblings (6,8,9,12) if they could, but they didn't have the same father so it didn't work.
    Two of them were adopted by one mom. One of those two was back in foster care in her teens. The oldest two grew up in foster homes.
    I know I'm biased, but adoption is a very serious decision and you really should look into the statistics before choosing an easily adopted infant over a lass than often adopted "older child".
    Infants are amazing and if you can't have one then I think adopting one is a very beautiful thing, but if you have had babies of your own, then maybe give a little kid a chance.

  8. angela_michelle profile image94
    angela_michelleposted 13 years ago

    I adopted a five year old, and am ever so glad I did. Well, she's seven, and we are in the process of adopting another child. I don't really care what age, he/she has to be younger than seven though, because I want my daughter to always be the oldest. smile

  9. profile image49
    George_Allenposted 12 years ago

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