Will you send your old parents to Home for Retired people or keep them in the family?
Every now and then we see on TV that old people are treated badly in the Homes for Retired.Still many are opting for that.
What is your reasons for either decisions?
I will take care of them. By then, I have time to do it.
if you asked me that when i was younger i would have said RETIREMENT VILLAGE all the way but now that im slightly older and have a family of my own, I think i will look after thyem myself
Well my 22 year old told me not to worry - she would never put me in a retirement home! She would definitely take care of me! I shuddered and asked if she would please put me in a home - she kills her house plants God love her:-)
Before my Dad passed away, I promised him that I would take care of my Mom. My Mom actually packed up her belongings and moved into a Condo that is close to me. (she used to live five hours away). I have made it perfectly clear to her that she will NOT go into a nursing home.
I worked in a nursing home as a teenager....(a VERY long time ago!) I saw so many families totally ignore their parents until that day that they would get a phone call that Mom/Dad is fading fast. They would then all gather around the bed sobbing and I would stand back and wonder why they hadn't been around when Mom/Dad was coherent.
My Mom cared for my Dad for years while he was ill. She will deserve the best care possible if and when the time comes. As long as I am on this earth breathing, she will come and live with me.
A whole lot of the elderly people I know (70s, 80's, and even one who lived into her 90's) actually do quite a bit to take care of, and help, a lot of younger families. The lady I knew who was out, volunteering until she was 93 or so eventually decided to sell her own house and move to a place where assisted living would be available if/when she needed it. Before she needed it she just lived in her apartment without the assistance, but without having to worry about the 8-room house and yard she'd had before.
My mother was in her 70's when she died, and she was caring for all kinds of people in one way or another.
I always like to point out these things, because so many people seem not to realize that a whole lot of elderly people are perfectly capable of caring for themselves.
Having pointed that out.... My mother was cared for at home before she died. My father died at 62, so he never got to be elderly.
This is it, when i was young who took care of me? my parents right, so when they grow old, it is my turn to tare of them, what comes around goes around. i will do my very best for my parents before they go home.
No I would not. They will need love and companionship in the later years. Do not deprive them of the love of their grand kids and family get together.
Thank you all for your answers.You are all kind and loving people.
The very reason that prompted me to ask that question was a question here about dating a man who lives with his mom or parents.
The majority women will NOT date such man???
I was shocked! Many women said ugly words about such men.
Then I realize that not all women are the same.
Nor all people are not the same.
I will take care of my old mom as long as she lives.
And if some woman says anything bad about that I will just point to the door.
by Shil197820 months ago
Don't you think we should care for our elderly at home, rather than send them off to nursing homes?
by Sheila Craan7 years ago
Is it best to put aging parents in a nursing home or have them live with you?
by starme776 years ago
what experiences have you had with family members in nursing homes? good? bad?
by J. Kumm4 years ago
Do you send a grandparent to a nursing home if it will mean splitting him/her up with their spouse?
by Christin Sander4 years ago
How do you convince your aging parents it's time to give up their home?The wife has leukemia and is getting worse, husband is in denial. Their home has major problems and they don't have the money to fix...
by schoolgirlforreal7 years ago
Look I'm sorry if this is in the wrong forum, I don't know which one.I need help/advice w/ my elderly parents.They are a huge "responsibility" and need more and more carebut refuse it. It's complicated.Mom is...
Copyright © 2018 HubPages Inc. and respective owners.
Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners.
HubPages® is a registered Service Mark of HubPages, Inc.
HubPages and Hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.