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Will you send your old parents to Home for Retired people or keep them in the fa

  1. akuigla profile image60
    akuiglaposted 7 years ago

    Will you send your old parents to Home for Retired people or keep them in the family?

    Every now and then we see on TV that old people are treated badly in the Homes for Retired.Still many are opting for that.
    What is your reasons for either decisions?

  2. prettydarkhorse profile image64
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    I will take care of them. By then, I have time to do it.

  3. kaisharleel profile image54
    kaisharleelposted 7 years ago

    if you asked me that when i was younger i would have said RETIREMENT VILLAGE  all the way but now that im slightly older and have a family of my own, I think i will look after thyem myself

  4. RealHousewife profile image77
    RealHousewifeposted 7 years ago

    Well my 22 year old told me not to worry - she would never put me in a retirement home! She would definitely take care of me!  I shuddered and asked if she would please put me in a home - she kills her house plants God love her:-)

    1. Lizam1 profile image82
      Lizam1posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Oh that made me laugh and laugh, I just woke up my daughter:-)  Now she thinks I am already ready for a home......

  5. Edoka Writes profile image60
    Edoka Writesposted 7 years ago

    I will take care of my parents; they took care of me.

  6. Vicki.Pierce profile image72
    Vicki.Pierceposted 7 years ago

    Before my Dad passed away, I promised him that I would take care of my Mom.  My Mom actually packed up her belongings and moved into a Condo that is close to me.  (she used to live five hours away).  I have made it perfectly clear to her that she will NOT go into a nursing home. 

    I worked in a nursing home as a teenager....(a VERY long time ago!)  I saw so many families totally ignore their parents until that day that they would get a phone call that Mom/Dad is fading fast.  They would then all gather around the bed sobbing and I would stand back and wonder why they hadn't been around when Mom/Dad was coherent.

    My Mom cared for my Dad for years while he was ill.  She will deserve the best care possible if and when the time comes.  As long as I am on this earth breathing, she will come and live with me.

  7. Lisa HW profile image74
    Lisa HWposted 7 years ago

    A whole lot of the elderly people I know (70s, 80's, and even one who lived into her 90's) actually do quite a bit to take care of, and help, a lot of younger families.    The lady I knew who was out, volunteering until she was 93 or so eventually decided to sell her own house and move to a place where assisted living would be available if/when she needed it.  Before she needed it she just lived in her apartment without the assistance, but without having to worry about the 8-room house and yard she'd had before. 

    My mother was in her 70's when she died, and she was caring for all kinds of people in one way or another.

    I always like to point out these things, because so many people seem not to realize that a whole lot of elderly people are perfectly capable of caring for themselves.

    Having pointed that out....      My mother was cared for at home before she died.  My father died at 62, so he never got to be elderly.

  8. philirodje profile image60
    philirodjeposted 7 years ago

    This is it, when i was young who took care of me? my parents right, so when they grow old, it is my turn to tare of them, what comes around goes around. i will do my very best for my parents before they go home.

  9. Greatlife profile image60
    Greatlifeposted 7 years ago

    No I would not. They will need love and companionship in the later years. Do not deprive them of the love of their grand kids and family get together.

  10. akuigla profile image60
    akuiglaposted 7 years ago

    Thank you all for your answers.You are all kind and loving people.
    The very reason that prompted me to ask that question was a question here about dating a man who lives with his mom or parents.
    The majority women will NOT date such man???
    I was shocked! Many women said ugly words about such men.
    Then I realize that not all women are the same.
    Nor all people are not the same.
    I will take care of my old mom as long as she lives.
    And if some woman says anything bad about that I will just point to the door.