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Sexting – Do you check your Teens Mobile text messages?

  1. Lady_E profile image78
    Lady_Eposted 7 years ago

    Sexting – Do you check your Teens Mobile text messages?

    Sexting is on the increase. A situation where teens send/receive sexual images of themselves…. particularly on social sites. (In UK, a video called “Exposed” has been produced to guard against it.)

  2. thougtforce profile image90
    thougtforceposted 7 years ago

    No, I don't! In fact, I didn´t even know it existed, never heard the word before. Is there no end to this "sharing-madness" in social media! Sometimes I feel dejected.
    There is no way to check their mobile, and I don't want to either! It is their private zone. And there is no way to prevent others from sending them that kind of messeges either. The only thing that can be done is to talk with your teenager and try to explain why this is so totally wrong!

    Thank you so much for the alert!

  3. ShannonSays profile image58
    ShannonSaysposted 7 years ago

    I check everything.  Even her facebook friends know that I'll be lurking around checking on them.  I'm really careful about how I communicate with her about it, and the "Mom checks everything" ground rule has actually helped us both respect each other.  We've had some pretty interesting conversations that never would have occurred had I not been privy to her texts as conversation-starters.

    This all might change when she starts paying for her own technology, but now as long as I have the power to pull the plug, it's a ground rule she's learned to live with.

  4. profile image61
    florence123posted 7 years ago

    I thoroughly agree with thougtforce talking to teens is a far more productive. We wouldn't like them to check our phones 'So why should we check theirs?' Surely they have the same right to privacy as we do. Also by spying on them they will not learn how to make safe choices and keep safe.Open talks with teens is the only way forward and respect them as we wish to be respected.

  5. CMCastro profile image80
    CMCastroposted 7 years ago

    The question posed should be- how well do you know your teen? If you have raised your child in the right way, then you will be able to predict what he or she will do recreationally with their phone. I know the values of my children (now in their twenties) and I can trust their judgement is good. The most I have ever found out about what they do on texting is my son has accidentally sent me his girlfriends message to me, realized what he has done, and then apologized to me. But the messages were sweet and innocent, mostly" I love yous", or" how ya doing ". And my daughter does not care for guys with " ill intentions". Anyway, my children have an aversion to porn openly because of what they went through personally- and they oppose it( their Dad unfortunately is addicted to porn and they know that is a problem).
    So, if you really have to worry about your children it is because you really don't have any idea what they are doing in their social life and you do not trust their judgement. Good parenting means good communicating.
    Thanks for letting me answer your question.

  6. Alexander M profile image57
    Alexander Mposted 7 years ago

    Being a teenager myself - this is indeed a big problem.
    Pretty much all teens do this, through out my high school sexual acts have become more popular amongst the teens.
    I see more relationships at young ages, sex at young ages ect.
    Is it me or is the youth maturing faster than normal?
    Is this the modern-day music?
    I hope to know one day. It's like an epidemic.

  7. profile image0
    Dandraposted 7 years ago

    I so would if I had a teenager. Trust...ha! I was a teen like 8 years ago...

    @Alexander: it's too much pressure to be cool, perfect, rich, look a certain way etc coupled with almost no restrictions, except for money. It's an unhealthy world out there for a teen today and it's getting worse, also people are mentally becoming more retarded.

    Kudos to SHannon says btw smile

  8. marc22 profile image57
    marc22posted 7 years ago

    of course i would lucky for me none of my kids are old enough to handle one , i would want to know if their some 30 year old perv talking to my kid so i could track them down and confront the person and turn their name in to the town or city police . And even though its  their own personal space their is still a time when you must be a parent and step in and tell them the risks of their actions with sexting . Kids are still kids they live in your house under you roof they dont have the final say you do , and not knowing is half the risk of endangering your childs well being thats what being a parents all about protecting your kids from harm and trying to keep them from danger, and situations that could pit them in danger .As a parent you should be aware of who your kids talking to or texting  and i for one would got threw their texts to make sure their are no bad pictures or things they should not have on their phone , and remind them that just cause some people seem nice their not all good and that preditors lurk around every corner ...

  9. Bronson_Hub profile image61
    Bronson_Hubposted 7 years ago

    There's something subtly disturbing about adults "checking in" on teen sexting.  I'm entirely against it.  If they're going to run away with Boris the Blade, checking their phones won't stop them from finding a way to do it.  Second, if they're hiding things from us because someone managed to create an unsafe environment where honesty results in some form of punishment, maybe our kids aren't the ones with the issues that need to be addressed.

  10. TinaTango profile image67
    TinaTangoposted 7 years ago

    Since picture phones were invented, people have been sending naughty photos of themselves, this is not a new thing people.  However it should be prevented in case of the photos being in the hands of the wrong person.  I believe you should talk to you teen about this.

  11. Scarlett Rain profile image59
    Scarlett Rainposted 7 years ago

    I'm a teenager, and I have sexted before. I've learned my lesson because the next day almost  everybody I knew had seen the pictures I sent to my ex-boyfriend.
    I don't think parents have alot of control on what their child decides to do.
    My friends little sister, who was only 12 has recived sexual text messages. Atleast 6% of teens as young as 12 have recieved these kinds of messages. 20% of older teens have recieved these kinds of messages.