Does the "winding path" of seeking your biological parents have pitfalls & anxious curves?
It absolutely does...it also takes deadend roads and rest stops! Sorry I took so long to answer. Do you happen to know a Dr Robert Abel from Wakarusa, Indiana?
I am a biological mother who had her second baby in 1994. I was 18 and already had a 20-month old son that I had chosen to keep and raise alone (his father was incarcerated most of his life, but I didn't care, he was the easiest baby to take care of and I loved him enormously.) When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, I was scared to death. Her father left me shortly after I found out I was pregnant. My heart was broke, and I had no idea how I was going to take care of two kids alone. I remembered a really good, true honest Christian friend of mine and her husband from church. Long story short, I gave my daughter to them willingly. They adopted her. She had the best life a child could ask for. She turns 18 this January. I get to meet her then for the first time.
Anxious curves?? ABSOLUTELY...lots of questions. Pitfalls? Only if you set yourself up for one...if you seek you biological parents, be prepared to deal with anything and respect their wishes. If, by chance, they do not want to see you, then you kind of HAVE to leave, but I say go for it. Adoptions are so open these days. They are not looked at like they were in prior decades.
I would say, YES. My sister did the dirty work for us, and I didn't like what she found, so I steered clear and moved on with my life. Not to deter you, but be prepared. Remember, if you never expect anything out of life, you'll never be disappointed.
It could be a wonderful reunion, or a horrible meeting, but if you don't do it, you'll never know, and it will always nag you. Something about a biological parent defines who you are and where you came from, a gotta know kind of thing.
On the other hand, the majority of a person's personality is formed by age 5, so if you were adopted very young, your adoptive parents have a lot to do with who you are. They helped form your personality.
I think the most important thing to know about biological parents is medical history because so many medical issues are genetic.
Good question! Seems as though I could go on and on, but not, I'm done. Best wishes in your endeavors.
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