Should a teenager be allowed to wear what they want without parental permission

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  1. IntuitiveMind profile image60
    IntuitiveMindposted 11 years ago

    Should a teenager be allowed to wear what they want without parental permission or approval?

  2. onegoodwoman profile image68
    onegoodwomanposted 11 years ago

    No, it is not that easy.

    Whether the shirt/ blouse is yellow, red, or green.........has little room for battle.

    Be she 13 or 17, my daughter is under my protection.  I AM responsible not only for her actions, but for the attention that she brings to herself.  ( in fact, my moral responsibility to her did not end at 18, 20 or 25 )

    It is my DUTY to guide her into adulthood.  When she makes the transition, she is the authority, but until she does, she is my child.  I will not give her up before she is ready to go.  She is not ready, until she knows how to protect herself.

    She will not ( was not ) be allowed to invite situations that she is not prepared to get herself out of without harming herself.  She is my child, entrusted to me, not a toy for those with little regard for her self respect.

    It is called: responsibility

  3. Jonesy0311 profile image61
    Jonesy0311posted 11 years ago

    No. Until they reach age 18, the parent is responsible for anything and everything the child does. That's why we have broad legal concepts such as "contributing to the delinquency of a minor." Anyone under 18 should not be allowed to do ANYTHING without paretnal permission or approval. Ever.

  4. IntuitiveMind profile image60
    IntuitiveMindposted 11 years ago

    I had this debate with my step-daughter last week. Of course, since she's only 16, she thinks that it's ok for teens to make their own decisions. If a friend wants to dye her hair yellow, that's ok because it's her hair. Well, I strongly disagreed. I believe that it is up to the parent to approve or disapprove of whatever the teenager does, until they're old enough and mature enough to make their own decisions.

  5. Bud Gallant profile image60
    Bud Gallantposted 11 years ago

    I think it's important to let a person have enough responsibility to decide what they are going to wear.  I'd encourage that at a very young age.  Teenagers and children are people.  The more they are made to be the effect of their environment through controls relating to what they can or can't wear, or can or can't have, the less responsibility they can take for their own actions.

    In a society where the right to own property is considered to be a cardinal aspect of a free nation, I think we need to be very careful when we don't allow our children to own and be responsible for property.  Once it's theirs, either through a gift, or because they purchased it themselves, I believe they should have the ability to do whatever they choose with it, whether that be to give it away, throw it out, wear it, or otherwise.

    It's totally understandable to feel responsible for one's children, but it's better for everyone involved to allow them the freedom to be responsible for themselves, and trust that they will make the right decisions.  The right decisions for them may not be the one's you approve of or support, but I think it's still their place to decide.  To do otherwise, is to perpetrate a system of bad control, for the purposes of perpetrating it, and to project our mistakes and misdeeds upon them.

    I follow a pretty strict philosophical outlook that contends in nearly all situations, children are more rational and more sane than adults.  Experience has validated this outlook for me.  I think we've often got things backwards.

  6. freecampingaussie profile image57
    freecampingaussieposted 11 years ago

    Children need guidelines and be able to wear their choice of clothes within the limits given to them by their parents .IE: Not too short or revealing etc.
    My girls would buy their own clothes and  mainly made good choices for themselves.
    Everyone has diferent personalities & styles they like & sometimes you might not like an item of clothing they choose however if its not revealing or in bad taste why worry about it ?

  7. Vanessa Anderson profile image60
    Vanessa Andersonposted 11 years ago

    Absolutely not.  Teens make bad enough choices as it is.  They definitely need help in the attire area of life.

  8. n.pady profile image56
    n.padyposted 11 years ago

    Anyone can wear what they want, except it must not be very revealing,which can give other people a chance to comment on. Also, not all religion permit wearing of anything, so being cautious is important.
    Parents never want anything bad for their children. They want their children to be safe and away from trouble, so if you still think that they are doing something wrong, guess its your choice. smile

  9. Dame Scribe profile image58
    Dame Scribeposted 11 years ago

    I am one for empowering our children. I'd suggest discussing the pro's and con's of a decision with the teenager then let and support - their choice. Allowing them to make decisions today helps for tomorrow.

  10. ratikagaur profile image60
    ratikagaurposted 11 years ago

    i feel a child is like a clay...a soft clay that is molded and shaped by it's environment, mainly parents. therefore what i think is that a choice of a teenager majorly reflects his/her environmental upbringing.

    so if the teenager has been inculcated with a good sense of time, people and place...there would be absolutely no question of parental approval at all...

    as they say you reap what you sow..

  11. stas karimov profile image60
    stas karimovposted 5 years ago

    Your child is not your slave. He or she should have own area to make a choice. We can not make our children be happy. Children see happiness in their heads. We know more than children - we must help them!


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