What is your take on spanking a child?
Is it abuse or discipline? For those who agree with spanking your child, where do you draw the line?
Well, that depends on what sort of spanking you are talking about. If you are referring to a "Mommy Dearest" beating with a wire hanger, that's out of the question. Also unacceptable is spanking with a back brush, a giant wooden spoon, electrical cords, razor strops, and any other device you hold onto.
However, a smack or two on the bottom with your hand to focus and redirect should suffice. Beating a child beyond this simple disciplinary action only serves to teach the child that you are bigger and stronger than they are and that you can bring them pain. Plus, if you were looking for that child to be open and honest with you in the future, well, not likely. They will shut you out.
As a father I think it would have to depend not only on the severity of the child's offense, but on the child's attitude when they were committing the wrong. A child who accidentally breaks something doesn't deserve a spanking; conversely if the child broke it intentionally and maliciously, then perhaps a spanking is necessary, especially if the child continuously disobeys.
I think when a child is a toddler, it is impossible to reason with them, and a swat can be appropriate to give them notice that something is off limits. I do not believe in spanking an older child. If you have to cause a child physical pain to get them to behave, you've already lost the battle.
We raised two children without spanking and they are delightful, productive people adults.
You don't spank your friends when you disagree with their behaviour or opinions, you talk to them and clear out the matter.
Children, however younger and less able to argue, are exactly the same, if not more, like friends. They should be taught to discuss things, be explained why certain things are wrong and should learn to reason and be reasoned with.
A spanking gives the same signal for everything they do wrong: I painted the wall with my crayon - > spank, I brushes my teeth with glue -> spank, I put flour in mom's bed -> spank... They don't learn from that, they only become afraid to do anything at all.
what is your take on spanking your spouse? Is it abuse or discipline? For those of you who agree with spanking your spouse (hopefully, No one in their right mind does). Where do you draw the line?
by crystaleyes 6 years ago
If your child does something wrong like hit you because you have not given in to his tantrum, what would you do? I have sometimes given a smack on his back for misbehavior.. is it fine or am i being a bad parent?
by Brian Loewer 5 years ago
Is spanking a misbehaving child morally wrong?Wether you spank your children or not, do you think it's ok if a parents chooses to swat their kids on the bum as a form of discipline?
by Kristen Burns-Darling 5 years ago
Should a father spank his teenage child for making her step-mother mad?I know a 13 year old girl who's father spanked her with a belt for making her step-mother angry, and then told her that every time that the step-mother informed him that the girl had made her mad, he was going to do...
by Renee S 7 years ago
I'm a little old school. A swap on the bottom now and then but now that's child abuse. What is/was your method of discipline?
by Audrey Hunt 5 years ago
Do you believe in spanking children?
by Shil1978 7 years ago
Would you spank your child? Do you think it is right or produces results? Do you approve of it?
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