How can young girls stay confident in a world where airbrushed beauty is considered the goal?
I have to thank my mother for giving me the confidence that I have, even with all the airbrushing that goes on. She taught me to be realistic with myself and with others. If we always walk out the door thinking we are Julia Roberts and are going to meet Brad Pitt we are sorely mistaken.
She taught me to look at myself as a whole not just for my looks but for my personallity, my humor, and my intelligence. She taught me to look at others the same.
Yes I have days where I feel blah and dont like myself very much but I get through it. I have tried over the years to help other girls and women in my life look at themselves the same.
This is such a great question and one that I don't believe can be answered on a mass level but more on a personal one. I myself did not grow up in a home beaming with confidence. More of a home centered around self deprivation, not accepting one's faults and often ignoring of real issues. This in turn made me a person that was willing to do anything to get someone to like me or make me feel special, thus filling a void of familial acceptance.
It takes courage and strength from the person wanting to make a change. They have to be willing to go to deep and dark places on their own, asking questions about why they want change. We often see these magazine covers and Hollywood reporter stories on TV that make us believe the outward look of perfection makes us perfect inside as well. The only way to realize this is not the case, that these people we put on pedestals have the same problems as everyone else, they just make more money.
We all have faults and learning to accept them and deal with them will in turn make a person more confident to stand up for themselves wanting to stay au natural. This should be the standard, not the plastic fake people we see every day and it is sad to know that beauty is really no longer in the eye of the beholder or what lies within. These two sayings are difficult to hold true anymore when the definition of beauty has become simply that regarding one's outside appearance.
Realize that everything on TV and in magazines is smoke and mirrors and be comfortable in their own skin. There is always going to be someone out there who is more attractive. Beauty fades faster than any other attribute for a reason; it is useless and insignificant. At best, you can hope to be pretty for a one-third of your life, if you're lucky. Besides, who wants to parade around all day with an airbrushed barbie doll? I like to hike, fish, and camp. Give me a chick that can rock a pony tail and dingy jeans any day. And if the men in their lives are stuck on outward appearance, start looking for guys with more than a GED who have some life experience.
Perhaps confidence comes when they live a beauty that comes from who they are, and how they act. This can be celebrated at home and reinforced whenever necessary
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