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Do you think it is ok for a 18 year old to have a baby?

  1. Nolimitsonlife profile image60
    Nolimitsonlifeposted 6 years ago

    Do you think it is ok for a 18 year old to have a baby?

  2. tillsontitan profile image89
    tillsontitanposted 6 years ago

    That's a loaded question.  It depends on a lot of things; the 18 yr. old's circumstances, is she married, is she responsible, is she in a committed relationship, does she have family support and on and on.  I was 19 when I had my first baby but I was married to the same man I am now almost 45 years later.

  3. brakel2 profile image83
    brakel2posted 6 years ago

    It is the choice of the individual. Is this person married or single? How mature is she?  That makes a lot of difference. What will happen to the baby? Does she intend to place it for adoption? Does the father love her and want to marry her or is this baby not a love baby.Who will support it? The girl probably needs to talk to her own parents about it. Many girls younger than eighteen are getting pregnant, and many receive welfare assistance. Will this be a welfare baby? Was the pregnany an accident? These questions need to be answered before one can answer this question if it becomes a real situation.

  4. iwansaptiko profile image57
    iwansaptikoposted 6 years ago

    Not recommended 18-year-old girl had a baby, because experiences indicate that they are not ready to care for the baby. But there are some girls who already have a sense of responsibility, and she wanted to have a baby, of course, that's ok. So 18 is only a general standard, not a definite standard for determining ready or not a girl have a baby. Some girls may be ready at age 18, others may just be ready at the age of 30. Society, parent support and cultural values ??also affect the readiness of a girl to have a baby. A good question!

  5. freecampingaussie profile image61
    freecampingaussieposted 6 years ago

    If they are married like I was when I had my first baby at 19.
    I loved having my daughters while young and had the next one at 22 & 27.
    Now I am 46 ,have 2 grandkids & traveling as they have their own lives .

    If not married then they are still of an age to care for a child  which is better rather than kill it for selfish reasons . It is better to adopt a child out if they don't feel up to caring for a child.

  6. Cassie Smith profile image68
    Cassie Smithposted 6 years ago

    It's fine to have a baby as long as you're responsible and can financially support that baby without the help of welfare.  It would go a lot easier on that 18 year old if she was married with a supportive husband who can be a good father but this seems a rarity nowadays.

  7. Vicki99 profile image77
    Vicki99posted 6 years ago

    If the question is asking for an answer as to the morality of an 18 year old having a baby, there is more to consider than age. Not all 18-year-olds can be lumped together in terms of maturity, social status and economic circumstances. Since 18 is the standard "age of maturity" the question becomes moot for an individual over that age who wishes to become a mother; it is her decision alone, one can only offer advice, most of which is unsolicited and unheaded.

    Many women from earlier times began having thier children at much younger ages than 18. This is not to say that it should be socially acceptable for young girls to become pregnant, just an observation that age is not a good indicator of parenting ability.

    The deciding factor would be whether or not the pregnancy was planned. If this was an "accident" then becoming a mother at 18 is more likely to be perceived as a concequence to be lived through than a journey to embark on. In this case there is a higher chance of the mother resenting the child, which at best creates an indifferent parent and at worst creates a child abuser.

    On the other hand, an 18-year-old woman in a committed and safe relationship with the financial means to comfortably raise a child is more likely to have a nurturing relationship with the child. The child in this scenerio would likely also have the love and support of a father.

  8. onegoodwoman profile image75
    onegoodwomanposted 6 years ago

    Should a 94 year old drive?

    Get over the "age" and focus on ability..........ability to see and to react.

    Ability, to sacrifice self desire on behalf of another.

    I , personally, think that there is a reason that children are given to us in our youth.

    I was  19 when my first child was born, became the Mother of 3, and the Grandmother of 2.   Never beat, abused, neglected or failed to provide for or guide my children.

    Some young mothers can not handle the emotional and physical stress.

    It is about maturity and ability.

    My 87 year old Dad, is still a good and responsive driver, his 70 year old wife......not so much.   

    Ability, not age should be the determining factor.........yet, are you going to "rip" the babe from the arms of a 15 year old mother?.......ARE YOU?   I am not!

    Keep in mind, at 18, a person can enter legal contract, go to war, and vote.   Who am I or you, to tell them that they can not 'parent'?

    It is not what  I would want for my daughter........no, I want her to go to college, get a degree, find an apartment, then a house...etc, and etc..........

    If she finds herself pregnant along the way ( she did )....I will simply love the babe......just as she will.

    what young parents NEED is support.   Give it to them from the family first.

  9. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 6 years ago

    My mum gave birth to my brother when she was 17.

    In her generations, it seemed okay to have children at a young age. But looking at the new generations, people are not looking for having children at a younger age as they feel that enjoying their lives are far more important than having a family.

    Soon we will have lesser babies and populations will decrease as years go by...

  10. arksys profile image92
    arksysposted 6 years ago

    whatever age ... if she CAN have a baby then she's ready ... and it's totally ok, as long as she looks after the baby.

  11. slaffery profile image58
    slafferyposted 6 years ago

    It doesn't really matter what I think.  What matters is how does that 18 year old think about it and what support does she have?  I would hope that the people around her would look past her age and support her.  She may be young but that doesn't mean she is not capable of being a good mother.  Same goes for the 18 year old if he is the one you are talking about.  Would it be easier if either one was older?  Probably but with the right support system in place  and 18 year old can be just a good a parent as any other age group.

  12. wychic profile image90
    wychicposted 6 years ago

    Like many have said here, it depends on a lot more than just age. I had my first baby at 19. I was not married. I was not financially able. I was not ready. When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I GOT ready pretty darn quick. Now I have my own business, I'm happily married in a stable relationship (not my son's father, but we can't all be perfect tongue), and I have done everything in my power to make sure my son lives a happy, healthy and fulfilled life where he knows he is loved.

    I was raised that any intimacy outside of marriage was wrong, but see total commitment as a marriage without the paperwork. I was totally committed to my son's father, he just wasn't totally committed to me. I personally think that, no matter your age, first-time parents are never truly prepared for what's coming. I also think that it's only wrong, at any age, if you fail to take care of your child and raise him or her the best way you can. Obviously, various religious backgrounds and what-not may have differing opinions.

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    lostwithinmyselfposted 6 years ago

    Well i was 17 when i had my first child which was planned. I guess it depends on the situation and person. x

  14. dagny roth profile image78
    dagny rothposted 6 years ago

    My little sister had a baby when she was 18.  My mom had me when she was 18 as well...while I waited until I was 27 to have my first child....I would have to say they are both enjoying a happy and full life!

  15. profile image52
    SpaceAgeposted 6 years ago

    I think 18's a little young 2 have a baby. many ppl that young r really not ready 2 b parents.

  16. HERBERT ubaldo profile image58
    HERBERT ubaldoposted 6 years ago

    too early for a woman , an ideal age at least 25.

  17. jose7polanco profile image73
    jose7polancoposted 5 years ago

    I am 18 myself and i know it differs from person to person but i barely feel ready to drive, pay bills, work, and be a student.
    I do not see my self being capable of having a kid to take care of.

  18. renee21 profile image81
    renee21posted 5 years ago

    If she is married, healthy and knows how to take care of a baby, I think it is perfectly safe for an 18 year old to have a baby.  If she is already pregnant and not married, she should either keep the baby or give it up for adoption when it is born.  Never have an abortion.  Abortions are murder.  The baby is a person at conception.