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Which is more important family or friends?

  1. rikabothra profile image60
    rikabothraposted 6 years ago

    Which is more important family or friends?

    Except your parents, do you think you can count more on close friends than your family?

  2. Ben Zoltak profile image84
    Ben Zoltakposted 6 years ago

    I would say family, every time, but there are exceptions that prove the rule. I have met people who have been so abused by family, that they have "adopted" friends as their new family. So by that standard, if someone is really, really close, and they have gained so much trust as to be just like family, then maybe a few friends might be more important. But for me, it's mostly family.

  3. smcopywrite profile image28
    smcopywriteposted 6 years ago

    in this life we can choose everything and anything. we have a choice for where we work, when we play and the right and wrong choices we make. however, we can never choose our family .for some reason we are placed with this select group of people, good and bad, that we are linked to genetically. i believe family is more important that friends. Though, this does not mean that friends are something that should be taken lightly in our lives. they are extremely important.
    there may be family that you dont like or get along with. however, you are placed with these people for a reason-whatever that may be.

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    vvaleedposted 6 years ago

    both bears sheer significance in their own perspective and none should be given precedence over another!

  5. Alternative Prime profile image75
    Alternative Primeposted 6 years ago

    I would say there are several different answers to this very complicated question - For individuals who have had a the very fortunate experience of growing up in a home in which love and compassion were as abundant as the number of heavenly stars in the universe, I guess we would have to assume blood relatives such as those found in the vast majority of family units would be the obvious answer -

    In the case of the less fortunate, possibly close friends or maybe even a combination of both - Furthermore,  we would also need to find out the context of the word "Important" - Important in what ways? Count on them in what ways? As teachers, positive influences, role models, motivators, to get us out of a "Jam" if need be so to speak, and the list goes on - A very good question with I believe an infinite number of answers -

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    ChuckGposted 6 years ago

    True friends become your family. Just because you are not bonded by blood, you are bonded by love which is much stronger. I say that both family and friends are important, however, the ones you count on are the ones who truly love you.

  7. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 6 years ago

    Family. They will be there when you are sick, when you are hurt. Your friends can move on and drift in and out of your life. Friends have other friends, people to gossip with, look out for, and spend time with. Are you going to be another person they talk to then dismiss?
    Also if you do not have a strong family, recreate a family. Name one of your friends your "mother" and one of your other friends a "father". They do not control you, but you look to them for guidance. They are what you wish your parents could be. Friendly, caring, dependable, interesting, funny, etc. However, over time they will turn into a regular friend.

  8. Billrrrr profile image81
    Billrrrrposted 6 years ago

    Neither is more important. 

    What is fundamental is having family that acts like friends; and friends that act like family. 

    Remember, you can choose your friends and to a lesser extent you can choose your family.  The family of the person you marry, becomes your family. 

    Choose wisely.

  9. Dawn Conklin profile image61
    Dawn Conklinposted 6 years ago

    For me I would say they are both equally important.  It really does depend on the individual tho.  Some people have big family issues that bring them down instead of giving them the love they need and deserve.  Some people have a bad choice in friendships and get into relationships where they end up being used or put down for who they are.  I happen to be quite fortunate, I have a loving and supporting family and I also have a few great friends that are just like family.

  10. justateacher profile image80
    justateacherposted 6 years ago

    When I think about this question I have to think about who my true friends are...and I discover that my best friends in life are my sisters and brothers. They are always there for me and would give me their last dime if they thought I needed it...so my family is most important to me - because they are also my friends.

  11. edhan profile image61
    edhanposted 6 years ago

    No matter how good friends are, family should always be put FIRST.

    Friends can betray you in time but family is always there for you. No matter the reasons, family must be the most important as family will help you when you are in difficulties.

  12. Dave Mathews profile image60
    Dave Mathewsposted 6 years ago

    God is most important. I place God over family and over friends. Your family have blood ties to you. You cannot choose family for this reason nor can you replace family. BUT you can always replace friends.

  13. zzron profile image55
    zzronposted 6 years ago


    I would have to say also that family is most important. You would do things for your family that you may not do for others. Although friends are like family to some degree there is a difference. You can pick and choose your friends but not your family. Your family is a part of you which creates the bond that you do have with your family. Sometimes family will feel more obligated to each other than they would to someone who is not family.

  14. DDE profile image23
    DDEposted 5 years ago

    No I can count more on my family than any friend, family is just a huge part of my life friends come and family will always stay, maybe not for everyone would family be yb their side but for me it works perfect with family

  15. fpherj48 profile image76
    fpherj48posted 5 years ago

    FAMILY....no doubt, no question, no substitute.   My late sister (only sibling) was my closest and dearest friend, as well as my much-loved sister.   No one can ever nor will ever even come close to the position she held in my life.......My sons would drop everything and help me, should it be necessary......without neglecting their OWN families, because, I raised them to place their priorities of dedication and priorities where they belong!...with "their own"...wife, children, etal.
    I have many friends, some close, some casual, some who just cling and I can't get rid of!!   BUT......there can never be a "friend" (non-family/blood-relationship) who would compare to a family member......IMHO. Sure, there are family members we're not crazy about and there are also friends we can THINK of as family......but there is a real dividing line, for me.  Thank you for this question.

    1. fpherj48 profile image76
      fpherj48posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Good to see this come around again.  I reiterate what I said 3 yrs. ago & always will. For me, it's FAMILY, hands down.  In fact, one of my most read hubs is about this very topic! With my sis gone, I've learned to become my own best friend!

  16. fpherj48 profile image76
    fpherj48posted 5 years ago

    Taking a look at our bonds or lack thereof within our families and circle of friends.  How they are established and flourish, or fall apart.  Personal outlook on Friends and Family. read more

    1. fpherj48 profile image76
      fpherj48posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      HUH???   I don't know who placed my hub here, but I don't recall doing it!  Glad it's here!  smile

  17. Jonas Rodrigo profile image81
    Jonas Rodrigoposted 2 years ago

    Friends are more important if we're talking about overt behavior.