How do you keep your child from misbehaving?

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   mommyneal6posted 12 years ago

   How do you keep your child from misbehaving?

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   KellyPittmanposted 12 years ago

   I don't think it's possible.   
   
   However, finding out what discipline actions work for your children helps in preventing them from repeating behaviors.   
   
   My son is seven and does well in school for the most part.  Every now and then he comes home with a "yellow" card which means the teacher had to correct him more than once during that day.  He is "grounded" that evening from TV or Video games etc. 
   
   Now, We aren't opposed to spanking IF it is neccessary but we also know it doesn't work for our youngest anyway!  Given the option, he'll choose a spanking over being grounded. 
   
   Here's the catch..  He hates being grounded so much that I have allowed him to "work off his grounding" with chores.  The funny part is, he spends all evening folding clothes and doing chores to NOT be grounded when he could have spent his grounding in his room where ALL his toys are!!
   
   At ages 7 and 9 my kids know there are consequences for misbehaviors.  We've explained that punishment is something that we have to do in order to help them learn not to repeat those things.  Just like they do in school when they misbehave.  Such as missing a recess or not attending a field trip. 
   
   My kids aren't perfect angels but they are pretty darn good if you ask me. 

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   lawdoctorleeposted 12 years ago

   mommyneal6, I think every parent has this question when they are raising their children.  Quite simply....get the child on a regular written schedule no matter how old they are.  It keeps them busy, happy, and are likely to behave well because they are not bored, tired, hungry, frustrated and are kept on a positive focus mode.  I have three hubs on parenting which can be applied to keep your child from misbehaving.  It's a "Top 10 Ways..." series of articles.
   
   "Top 10 Ways to Encourage Children to Read"
   "Top 10 Ways to Encourage Children to Share"
   "Top 10 Ways to Help a Screaming Toddler - Dealing with Temper Tantrums"

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   Dee aka Nonnaposted 12 years ago

   I agree with so many of the things KellyPittman said...... one of the greatest pieces of advice my aunt gave me when I was a young mother is "figure out what works for each child"  when I did it was great.
   
   Another thing that worked for my kids when they were growing up, concering public behavior, is this....we would have a conversation before leaving home about expectations and the consequences and I always followed through....they got the message after a couple of times.

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   aguasilverposted 12 years ago

   I guess my children have come to recognise that a certain tonal change in my voice means it's time to stop doing whatever they were doing, and that does not mean shouting!
   
   If I have to stop their activities, I make sure they know WHY.
   
   I used to hate it when my parents just said "Because I say so" whether they were right or wrong.

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   Irish clodaghposted 12 years ago

   this is age dependent but usually being firm but fair, using tone to correct inappropriate behaviour and above all consistency are the most effective tools.  Also ignoring the bad and praising the good has proven effective.  Shouting and spanking are ineffective toold for disciplin

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