What age should you stop grounding your kids?

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   stylezinkposted 12 years ago

   What age should you stop grounding your kids?
   
   What age is a good time to start phasing out grounding your child?

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   Jean Bakulaposted 12 years ago

   Once they get to be in their teens they may try to sneak out anyway. I never grounded mine, based on the fact that if sent to their rooms, they have computers, phones, guitars and all kinds of great stuff to do, so it's not really a punishment. Are they old enough to just sit down and talk about what the rules of the house should be, or even participate in something like that? If you tell them the house and family is a team, and you need to work together to make everyone comfortable and get along in the best atmosphere, they may feel included in the process and listen more. Just a thought. Good luck, and they do grow up!

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   terrektwoposted 12 years ago

   I think that once they have past the mid teen mark, 15 - 16 possibly 17 but that would be pushing it. If they are not gone to college after that point and are completed high school I think it is best to make it clear to them if they live at home and want to continue to do so what they are required to do (chores/responsibilities, etc.)

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   When they move out! LOL!
   Seriously, as long as a child is living under their parent's roof they are going to have to abide by (their rules). Parents are legally and morally responsible for their kids.

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   Cardisaposted 12 years ago

   Until they are old enough to stop breaking the rules or being naughty.

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   Saugasfinestposted 12 years ago

   I think when the time comes, they'll stop allowing you to ground them, Lol
   
   But i'd say 18 is too old to still be grounded. They should understand the difference between right and wrong and what will and will not be tolerated by then. If they havent, then maybe its time to evaluate your methods of discipline.

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   lanealaneaposted 12 years ago

   Hi there. I would say at the age that they stop responding to it. Hope this helps some.

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   NiaGposted 12 years ago

   I don't have kids but I imagine that's tough to decide because after 18 they can do whatever they want to. How do you ground that? But at that point that's when you can use the line "as long as you're under my roof you do what I say." If it's effective enough they'll get outta the house and you won't have to worry about it anymore. :0) But I'd agree with up until they're 17years and 364 days old.

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   onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

   Well, at 50, I have not grounded my offspring in quite some time!
   
   
   Ok, you asked a  legitimate question, and it deserves a serious and responsible reply.
   
   "grounding" gave way to  withholding high school social functions.....be it a ball game or a dance
   
   Then to driving privlages
   
   By the time, my girls ( each one of them graduated before the age of 17), were through with High school, I had little to 'hold over " their heads.   
   
   All that I had left was education and communication...these proved to be the most powerful tools in my parenting aresenal.  Loking back, I wish I had embraced it  much earlier.....even though, I considered myself, even then, to be open minded and aware.
   
   
   My very, very best advise to young parents...................listen to your children, they will reveal their needs to you.   You just have to learn how to apply the applications.

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    SD Dickensposted 12 years ago

    I never really grounded my kids.  I try to fit the punishment with the crime as much as possible.

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    Dexter Yarbroughposted 12 years ago

    I would have to say at age 18. However, I agree with Cardisa. When they stop breaking the rules and acting foolish!

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    xethonxqposted 12 years ago

    lol...great question! I'm 43 and I'm still grounded!
    
    Seriously though, I think it depends on the kid and the relationship you have with your child. I believe in matching principles (i.e. if the issue is with the cell phone, the consequence is related to the cell phone) for the most part with incremental increases in consequences or limits for repeated problems. All in all, kids respond to relationships, not rules. When parents work hard to keep relationships with their children a priority.........good communication, active listening, empathy, intentional and consistent involvement, and acknowledgement that we are all human and make mistakes...........kids respond.

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    lawdoctorleeposted 12 years ago

    "As long as you live under my roof, young lady/man....."  Ok, seriously though ... do it whenever they break the rules when they are under 18 because you are still responsible for their behavior.  After that, they're an adult and, hopefully, if you've done your job as a parent, they're not driving you crazy at 18.  'Cause if they are driving you crazy at 18 years old, it's time for them to get out.
    
    Great question

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    ISASAASSposted 7 years ago

    When they stop doing things that warrant the need to ground them.

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