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Are parents watching their kids enough?

  1. plaid pages profile image61
    plaid pagesposted 5 years ago

    Are parents watching their kids enough?

    Busy work schedules, enormous fiscal stress, and sometimes narcissism take their toll on parents.  Are kids on their own too much?


  2. MarleneB profile image99
    MarleneBposted 5 years ago

    Yes! It's sad. But, in order to survive, parents have to work harder than ever just to put food on the table and a roof over their heads. This means children are left to their own resources for much longer periods of time than in the past. It really is sad, but what are we going to do?

  3. loveofnight profile image80
    loveofnightposted 5 years ago

    I think that more often than we don't want to admit that they are. We may choose not to admit it because of the guilt.For me when my workload  became too much The first thing that I did was to make sure that my kids and I had quality alone time.I actually made dates with my daughter so that she had something to look forward to and the time we shared was special.I also made sure of the quality of time that she had without me.That it was properly monitored, she loved her singing lessons and the glee club that she was in.Although I was not there as often as I wanted to be I felt good because the tv was not her baby-sitter.Because we prepared dinner together she not only learned from me but became a good cook as well.
    Some things we can't avoid because we have to follow them through but we can find joy in the mist of it all.

  4. donnaisabella profile image80
    donnaisabellaposted 5 years ago

    Let us get real, when I go backwards to being a child and growing up, I cannot say my parents spent more time with me than I have done with my children.
    Whereas I have been a mother that held a full time job away from home, my mother was a full time housewife for some years when I was young. She had a lot to do all day even if at some point during the day we would spend time playing together for about a half hour or more but of course she was always somewhere around, not far away. We spent a lot of time as kids playing with other kids and that seemed fine. Our children seem to be alone a lot because the way of doing life as a community has changed. Children have to be watched closely to such an extent that parents rarely have breathing space. If kids are not playing with other kids then they need attention and what parent is there that can possibly meet the social demands of a child? Children are meant to spend time with other children except those special times when they are being coached by their parents or just having some family time. It is not so much our lifestyles that dictate how alone our children are nowadays as it is the structure of the society we now live in. I enjoyed being with fellow kids more than I would have being micromanaged by my parents.

  5. Pamela N Red profile image87
    Pamela N Redposted 5 years ago

    No they are not. It amazes me that we don't have more babies ran over by cars, abducted or in tragic accidents. I see infants allowed to play in the front yard unattended, roaming the streets without a parent and no one seems to care.

    I see parents in the mall or shopping centers expecting little ones to follow behind without holding their hand.

    This last generation will either be stronger for it or a much smaller population due to accidents.

  6. msviolets profile image85
    msvioletsposted 5 years ago

    I really don't believe that kids are 'on their own too much'.  But they are overscheduled, and there do seem to be too many caregivers being juggled.  Add that to the fact that people don't want to get involved.  If a kid gets it into their head to do something dangerous and they're between caregivers, no one steps in.  They wait to address it with an overstressed parent. 
    Meanwhile, kids aren't given the opportunities to explore.  They don't have safe places to run free.  Kids used to learn a lot by being self sufficient.   We don't have time for that anymore, or space, or patience.  And kids are the ones suffering.
    They need down time with and without parents.  Parents need to be more aware of what happens at the various places they send their kids.  But they don't need to hover more.

  7. Eliminate Cancer profile image60
    Eliminate Cancerposted 5 years ago

    I think most parents watch their kids too much - kids need freedom, and your trust.  Instill the right values, share quality time, and give them space and time to explore on their own.

  8. smzclark profile image61
    smzclarkposted 5 years ago

    In my opinion. Most parents spend too much time watching their kids from a distance and not enough time just being with them.

  9. edhan profile image61
    edhanposted 5 years ago

    I think when we are teaching kids, it should be on building a better character than anything else. Upbringing a kid is not an easy task as I have gone through every single stage of their lives with my 2 kids.

    We have to spend at least an hour a day to find out what's going on with our kids and getting the right feedback is vital. Knowing what sorts of questions to ask and getting the right responses will help you understand your kids better.

    It is not just the routine questioning as it may turn out boring and end up nothing much to say or hear from your kids.

    You will need to monitor and check on your kids once a while to get a better understanding like talking with the school teachers and getting involved in their activities.

    It is a lot of work when bringing up your kids but at the end of the day, you will find satisfaction in life.

    This is just the cycle of life everyone is going through but how you govern your life and bringing up your kids is a challenge that can give you much satisfaction.