Is it okay to discipline your nieces and nephews?

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   sacredlilacposted 12 years ago

   Is it okay to discipline your nieces and nephews?

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   gabrielthomas72posted 12 years ago

   Unless I had been specifically asked to do so, I would not feel comfortable disciplining my newphews or nieces. But if I was looking after them and had been told to do so, I would not hesitate to.

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   LauraGTposted 12 years ago

   I think it depends on the situation and your relationship with the parents.  I think if it's something really egregious (like hitting or biting), you have to discipline them.  However, I would do my best to do so in accordance with the parents discipline style/preference. I would want my kids disciplined if they were really misbehaving with their aunt and uncle!

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   hobbynobposted 12 years ago

   No. The parents should take charge of this in all respects, unless there's a child care issue and the parents can't be around for some reason.

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   FatFreddysCatposted 12 years ago

   My niece is over at our house constantly to play with my sons (her cousins) and she knows that if she gets out of line while at my house, my wife and I are both authorized by her Mom & Dad to discipline her. The same rule applies for my sons if they're at her house.

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   Juliek958posted 12 years ago

   My niece and nephew are adults now and don't come spend the night or weekend with me anymore but when they were younger ... my house, my rules.  The fun of coming to my house for them was that the rules were different...get to stay up later than normal, sleep in later, no chores and whatever they want to eat is what we have and whatever movie they want to watch.  But arguing, fighting, hitting, not sharing...that sort of thing wasn't tolerated.  Their Mom and Dad never questioned it and I did follow their rules for quite a few things if needed.  My house was playtime and all about them so there wasn't a lot of discipline needed...just a time out every now and then.  I would never have spanked them.  Generally, it just took one time to follow thru after a warning and the behavior was corrected...they would not stop fighting, they got a warning, continued the fighting and I took them home.  It was a very quiet car ride. After that, if I gave a warning...the behavior stopped. 
   
   On the flip side of that, if I was at their parents' house and they were misbehaving, I stayed out of it.  I only disciplined when I was alone and responsible for them.
   
   It's all about trust.  My brother and sister-in-law trusted me and I honored that to the best of my ability.

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