discipline to children 5 -11

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  1. profile image48
    lovely1456posted 9 years ago

    ok discipline is a good thing to teach kids a lesson because it teaches them the diffrence between good and bad now some people say ok im not spanking my kid because i dont want her or him to hate me. they will only will grow to hate you f you beat them  with a baseball bat or a metal pole ok. spanking is very common in this world it tells kids what you did was wrong and it teaches them  bot to do it again. If you havent tried putting them in a corner or putting them in a time out chair. Then i would suggest you try that before considering spanking because they might just lisen to 'go to the corner or sit in the time out seat' But other wise if they do not lisen to that spanking is another way of discipline. But if spanking dont work ground them take away a toy  or tv time or send them to there rooms but make sure that you have took there toys and stuff that they like. And what ever you do make sure you da ont give in to them they will pout,cry,stomp,yell,and say they hate you and much more. but keep your head high and dont let them make you feel bad because you are just teaching them a lesson on how to behave.

    1. Diane Inside profile image73
      Diane Insideposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I started a forum on this topic not too long ago, I agree disapline of any kind needs to be enforced, but these days it seems like it has gone by the wayside.

    2. TPSicotte profile image81
      TPSicotteposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      There are so many ways to discipline kids that don't involve spanking. Quick time outs in a high chair for little ones or in a chair for older ones, usually one minute per year of age works well. Logical and natural consequences also work well. The one person kids should feel safe and secure with should be there parents. Studies have shown that kids who are spank are way more likely to hit other kids. As parents we need to think about the behavior we model for kids. I know they can push our buttons sometimes but spanking.

      I have been a parent and parent educator for 20 years. I have lots of posts on the topic because I know parents get frustrated.

  2. swapna123 profile image62
    swapna123posted 9 years ago

    I don't understand whether the topic is about discipline or spanking. Just because the kid is yours and you are stronger than the child doesn't give you right to hit the child.

      There are lots of ways to discipline people and spanking should be the last option. Most of us raise our hands on the kids only because of our  frustration and inability to handle a shrieking kid and not exactly thinking that it will discipline them.

      Here's what I do.. Whenever I feel irritated and feel like spanking the child, I close my eyes for few seconds or go to another room and cool down. After this I come back better equipped to handle the child's tantrums. But for those of you who do this and still feel that spanking would help the child,you can go to the child and tell them that they are going to be spanked if they don't behave and if they still don't listen, you can give them a whack on their back.

      There is no evidence that a child who is never spanked would be less disciplined than a child who is spanked, or vice-versa.

    1. Loving_Life profile image61
      Loving_Lifeposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      With my children they usually get grounded or things taken away from them (like tv,bikes etc).
      And I find it works great! I have on occasion had to give my children a slap on the bottom, or a slap on the mouth for swearing or mouthing back, but have felt guilty afterwards.

      Also soap in the mouth works great for swearing....

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    Anouserposted 9 years ago

    I agree spanking and other cruel methods are bad. In many countries, spanking sends you to prison today, and for every year, more and more countries will probably adopts such laws.

    Children who were never spanked tend not to spank their own children.

    1. sofs profile image87
      sofsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Spanking or no spanking discipline is a must. Disciplining a child teaches a child to follow rules,  so many kids break rules for they have not been sufficiently disciplined. They have not learned the benefit of walking within guidelines and still enjoying life.  Teens often think that is fun only if you break the rules, because they have not learnt this lesson well.
      Parents find it easy to spank and discipline as it brings instant results at least initially.  Disciplining is time consuming , educating the child is foremost. it needs to be followed consistently, punishment for breaking rules immediate , and should  be enforced  by both parents. Vigilance on the part of the parent  is absolutely necessary.
      Spanking should be resorted to only as a lost resort. Withdrawal of things they love to have or do or even withdrawing attention from them works well enough if followed strictly.
      A well disciplined child is a pleasure to be with, well accepted and a focused individual later in life.

    2. Jeff Berndt profile image85
      Jeff Berndtposted 9 years ago

      Spanking /= discipline.
      Discipline /= spanking.

      It's important to understand that people who decide not to spank their children have not decided not to discipline them.

      In fact, a kid who makes decisions based on whether a given action is right or wrong, or what the logical consequences of the action are, is more disciplined than one who makes decisions based on whether he's going to get caught and spanked.

      "I'd better not do that: it's the wrong thing to do." > "I'd better not do that: my dad'll kill me."

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      Home Girlposted 9 years ago

      The more your child is busy in meaningful and interesting occupation, the less he will be in need of any "discipline". I know it by experience. it works.

      1. Sassypoetic profile image59
        Sassypoeticposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        Discipline is training that corrects the mind and heart. Children need it constantly. Parents should discipline in love, discipline does not mean speaking to them in threatening tones, scolding them, or even insulting them. Different children require different kinds od discipline.

        The occasional punishment administered for disobedience may be lifesaving. A child should be told why  he is being punished. The rod and reproof are what give wisdom. Punishment has boundaries, The Bible in no way endorses angry whippings or severe beatings..In what whatever appropriate form, should never leave a child feeling rejected.
        Rather, the child should sense that discipline is given because the parent is "with him, on his side.. So be careful...

    4. profile image0
      Anouserposted 9 years ago

      Chair is better than corner time. Too long corner time may damage their legs.


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