Have you or would you ever send your child to bed without dinner?

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   KevinC9998posted 13 years ago

   Have you or would you ever send your child to bed without dinner?

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   BizGenGirlposted 13 years ago

   My son and I have only had to come to that twice in his 7 years on this earth, lol. The first time was because he climbed on a chair when no one was looking, and grabbed a pair of scissors from a high bookshelf (where we put it so he wouldn't play with them). Then he cut himself pretty bad and lied for nearly a whole day before he would tell me the truth, which is what he was sent to bed without dinner for - lying is on my no-no list, lol =P
   
   I can't remember what the other time was for.. Probably something similar. He's a pisces-aquarius cusp, so his idea of lying and everyone elses are a little askew, lol. Even with that, I prefer to avoid letting my kiddos go without dinner or necessary activities, it's really not the best tool for behavior correction. Though if used properly, it can aide your parenting when you really need them to remember the importance of your rules. I found that after sending him to bed without dinner just those two times, I haven't had to resort to that again (so far).

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   win-winresourcesposted 13 years ago

   Hello Kevin-
   
   No, never.  Food is not a weapon, reinforcement or tool in disciplining children.  Would you deprive them of water or air, or love?  Of course not.
   
   I know (particularly from all of the hubs on the subject) that people are searching for effective ways to discipline children.  Spanking, slapping, hitting, pinching, twisting and shaking are all just violence.  I can't believe anyone would really want to teach their children violence, or, further, that violence is an acceptable way to deal with problems.
   
   Calm, logic, reason, and love are the keys. Open discussion, perhaps in the child's room, and honoring their perspectives, explaining how their behavior did not meet with the expectations.  Be sure to stress that your love is not dependent upon, or affected by, their behavior.  It is unconditional.  A particular behavior, however, can be unacceptable and will have consequences.  Consistency is critical.  An unacceptable behavior must be confronted every time.
   
   -DW

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   onegoodwomanposted 13 years ago

   No.........
   
   Food is meant to nourish, fuel  and energize our bodies.
   
   It is not a bargaining chip...........
   
   
   neither are cupcakes, donuts, ice cream sundaes...............you get the idea..........
   
   
   parents should discipline...........I wholly support that idea, but food and fuel are not the barganing chips.

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   duffsmomposted 13 years ago

   No absolutely not.  Providing a child food should not be based on behavior but their physical need for nourishment.
   
   Making food an issue whether for punishment or forcing a child to eat causes huge problems later in life in their relationship with food.  They learn to see food and eating as power and control.

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