What was the most difficult thing you experienced after having your first child?

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   algarveviewposted 13 years ago

   What was the most difficult thing you experienced after having your first child?

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   TheCranberryBarnposted 13 years ago

   Getting along as a couple.
   
   I changed quite dramatically after my 1st child was born, but my husband didn't.  It was quite challenging and the marriage didn't make it, but the 2 kids we had are amazing!

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   Lady Wordsmithposted 13 years ago

   Dealing with a lot of people who suddenly appeared out of the woodwork thinking that they had a bigger claim than anyone else on me, my baby and our time.  Certain members of the family visiting every single day for hours on end for the first few months - drove me almost to insanity.  Conversely, one of my proudest moments was when I did not flip out at those people, but managed instead to diplomatically ask them to give us a little space!

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   edhanposted 13 years ago

   We were fortunate as our first child did not give us any problem.
   
   Imagine that after the last feed of milk around 9 pm, our baby woke up in the morning after 10 am to have the first milk feed.
   
   Indeed that was the best we can ever ask for with our first baby.

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      breathe2travelposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      NONE of mine were like that!  Still not! Wow.

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      edhanposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      We are just fortunate. Luckily we did not go through hell like my brothers and sisters waking up at night when baby cried.

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   onegoodwomanposted 13 years ago

   Understanding..........that " summer", or "life tomorrow"...........was NOT about me..............
   
   
   I, alone,.............yes, me, alone..........
   
   
   made the decisions for this little baby girl's tomorrows
   
   
   
   I, yes , me , "I" was responsible .................
   
   
   
   So, very, sorry, dear darling daughter.............so VERY sorry........I was not prepared or ready........
   
   I, stand before you...........disgraced.

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   Becky Katzposted 13 years ago

   Finding some time to be alone. It is important to retain a bit of self when you have children and it was hard. My husband worked long hours and sometimes when he came home, I felt so relieved to get some time to just take a walk by myself or a shower by myself. I felt guilty also for wanting to be alone once in a while. I did adjust eventually but it was hard. I was used to getting some time alone once in a while.

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   breathe2travelposted 13 years ago

   I remember being challenged to hold an adult conversation after spending my days with an infant.  Thankfully, that subsided.

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