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In your opinion what is the most difficult task once you have children? And why?

  1. algarveview profile image89
    algarveviewposted 5 years ago

    In your opinion what is the most difficult task once you have children? And why?

  2. petenali profile image85
    petenaliposted 5 years ago

    Convincing your husband to have more....
    I did not enjoy my wife being pregnant, although the fruit of her labour (pardon the pun) is two sons who bless my life.  The getting pregnant part is fun ;-), so is the seeing your kids growing up.... it's the nine months in between...

  3. msorensson profile image72
    msorenssonposted 5 years ago

    I don't believe in punishment, and it is not true that you spare the rod and spoil the child.

    You can never love a child too much.

    On the other hand, you have to teach them responsibility so that they will be able to take care of themselves. That is actually the most challenging part. Balancing loving with teaching responsibility.

    Resisting the desire to say "Just do it no questions asked. I am your mother..."

    You can reason anything but in the end, give them the freedom to choose. It is your greatest gift.

  4. Ellana317 profile image78
    Ellana317posted 5 years ago

    I think the most difficult task once you have children is learning to forgive yourself when you make mistakes.  Truth be told... there are no perfect parents but we all want to be.  :-)

  5. yeagerinvestments profile image86
    yeagerinvestmentsposted 5 years ago

    Waking up in the middle of the night, trying to be anywhere on time, and I like petenali's answer about "convincing your husband to have more". I am very happy with 1 child right now. smile

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    Hubert Williamsposted 5 years ago

    Allowing my son the freedom to make mistakes so that he can learn from them is very hard for me. It tears at my heart for him to cry when he's hurt, but all children need to know there is pain in life and the only way to learn how to deal with it as an adult is to make the mistakes when they are young and have parents that guide them through the aftermath. That's me others have their own ideas that work for them.
    It is unrealistic to believe that our children were born with all they need to know to pevent harm from coming their way. They, like us learn from mistakes.

  7. TeacherCaro profile image59
    TeacherCaroposted 5 years ago

    What a question!
    I believe the most difficult situation of having children is the idea of thinking about their future and I believe every parents work to give them the best in life. In my case, in all the activities I do, I always do them to give my children the best and I sometimes repent about working so many hours because I cannot enjoy time with my kids. The most difficult of all is that we cannot manage suffering when our children suffer but life is like this. We cannnot manage everything!

    1. Lizam1 profile image82
      Lizam1posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Children remember and value time you spend with them not how many hours you spend doing housework or work outside the home.  I would encourage you to change your schedule to spend time with them rather than working so hard.

    2. TeacherCaro profile image59
      TeacherCaroposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Lizam1 , your are right! Thanks for helping me to realize it!!!

  8. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 5 years ago

    I do not find any difficulties when a child is born.

    It is the process during pregnancy where my wife had to go through the pain of delivery and the discomfort during the nine months.

    Once my child is born, it is the joy we share bringing them up. That is the best part during their growing up days though it may be tough to handle at times when they are running around.

  9. Angel198625 profile image90
    Angel198625posted 5 years ago

    I think there are alot of difficult things when raising a child, but, if I could only pick one, it would be knowing that are you are doing the right thing to turn them into a great adult.  There are so many different suggestions and opinions, sometimes I really woner if what I am doing is the right one.  I also think being a parent can be hard in general.  It can be difficult when they are younger, depending on the child.  My daughter would not eat very much on her own when she came home from the hospital, so I had to force feed her.  I woke up, it took an hour to feed her, then I slept for an hour, and then I did it all again.  For one and a half months.  While I went to school full time.  It wasw far from easy. Trying to balance work, school, and children can be hard.  Dealing with relatives all trying to tell you different ways to raise YOUR child can be a little trying on the most patient person.  And the list could go on and on.  No matter how hard it gets though, there are also those times when it is a breeze, and children are more than worth it.

  10. WiseRabbit profile image82
    WiseRabbitposted 5 years ago

    going to the bathroom, hah! The little tykes can't stand to be left out. Seriously, though, there are so many difficulties but the one that stands out to me, looking back at my children's growing up years would be staying ahead of them. Children are far more intelligent than most people give them credit for. They have the adults in their lives figured out and know how to manipulate and get around almost anything. Especially when they are teens. Providing guidance in a way that lets them know you're on to them but still love them is an art form.