What are some things that you can do as a parent to build self confidence in you

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   cardeleanposted 12 years ago

   What are some things that you can do as a parent to build self confidence in your children?

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   Recently Awakenedposted 12 years ago

   It is important to treat them with respect. They are little individuals and deserve the same respect as any other person or adult.

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   sroberts9posted 12 years ago

   Let them do some things you know they can do well.  Compliment them and encourage. Allow them to read to you.  It does not matter if they mispronounce some words (little kids) the idea is to make them feel like they can.  Take the fear out of it and encourage them with guidance and beautiful compliments.  Children are so afraid in this world we live in today.  Not like when I was a kid - all you had to worry about was getting home before dark.  Now our children have so much more to worry about, (kidnappers, molesters, bullies, and watching the little sister or brothers, making meals, etc.)  They are expected to be little "adults" right away.  No one has time anymore to help build a child's confidence everyone's too busy to recognize.  We have to make the time everyday to compliment them.  (myself included) as sometimes I forget but, we my husband and I both try to let them know we see them, we hear them, and we love them and we know they are going to be great at whatever they choose to be and do.  Let the words come out of your mouth sometimes bless, and lift up, encourage instead of complaining.  It's hard to do but, with some effort we all can do it.

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   Eric Mulfordposted 12 years ago

   I've found a few things that if done well and consistently make a huge difference:
   
   1) When talking to them look them in the eye. Even if that means that you have to get on the floor.
   
   2) Introduce them to strangers as you would any other adult. WHen you do this teach them to shake hands and look the other person in the eye.
   
   3) Allow them a place in the conversation. They should not be allowed to interrupt or dominate, but they should have a place.

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   Keeley Sheaposted 12 years ago

   Help them to set small goals that they can achieve independently!  This helps with self confidence.  They will start to realize they can do things on their own and can do them well!  This will also help them to make decisions confidently.  Make sure the goals are age appropriate.

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   Mandeeadairposted 12 years ago

   I think giving them a little space a freedon to make their own decisions and standing by them.  Another thing is to have confidence in them !!! Just be a loving parent, give them space, teach them, and  believe in them and you will build confidence in your children.

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   denise.w.andersonposted 12 years ago

   The best thing that you can do to boost the self-confidence of your children is to love them unconditionally. Hug them daily. Let them know that you love them, no matter what they do. Teach them what they need to know to be successful in this difficult world. Show them you love them by doing things with them. Work with them, play with them, pray with them, be happy with them.

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   krillcoposted 12 years ago

   Frustrate them and let them fail. We learn by frustration (think learning to tie your shoes). False accomplishments, like when folks give all kids on all teams a huge trophy, because 'everyone is a winner' is shallow and not real; it does a disservice to kids. When we allow failure and hold a level of reasonable expectation of performance (along with strong encouragement to dust themselves off and try again), we do kids a great service; we make them EARN their self confidence.

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   Starmom41posted 12 years ago

   find out what interests them, and encourage them to pursue it (hobbies, etc.)

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    emimemoposted 12 years ago

    Every person has a something good at. Find out what is the child is good at and encourage him or her to keep going. When the child failed something, I would say, “Do not worry, it was great to learn how you feel when you couldn’t do something. You can try again.” And “If you like to try again, go ahead I will support you. I can’t wait to see what you will achieve next.” Basically, I would say something positive.

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    Amy Gillieposted 12 years ago

    I really believe in giving my kids the power to make some decisions. Even if they are little decisions, such as which game to play first, or what the family should have for dinner one weeknight, it can really boost their self confidence. Knowing that they have some power and seeing others respecting their views and thoughts makes them feel more confident.

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    alex.curtisposted 12 years ago

    give them rewards even if its a small accomplishment. In this way, kids would remember that he/her's good deeds are appreciated.

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    Sue St. Clairposted 12 years ago

    An overview of ways that parents can instill self-confidence in their children. Instilling self-confidence often starts early and continues through life. read more

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    Family Preserversposted 12 years ago

    Constant positive affirmations.  The knowledge that our children are lovable and capable help them with almost any situation.  Instill THAT and they will be self-confident.  You can get some free motivation charts and other ideas at my hub:
    http://familypreservers.hubpages.com

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