What are the 10 things parents ROUTINELY do to destroy a child's self-confidence

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  1. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

    What are the 10 things parents ROUTINELY do to destroy a child's self-confidence?


  2. rontlog profile image88
    rontlogposted 9 years ago

    Tell them they aren't clever enough to do something.............

  3. liesl5858 profile image82
    liesl5858posted 9 years ago

    The ten things parents routinely do to their children are:
    1.shout at their children
    2.pinch their ears
    3.thump them
    4.not helping them with their homework
    5.passing them on to others to look after them
    6.not teaching them the basic things in life like names of things they eat, cooking,etc
    7.buying them toys to keep them amuse instead of spending time with them and play in the garden with fresh air
    8.constantly yelling at them telling them that they are useless
    9.not encouraging them to be self-sufficient
    10.not feeding the kids with healthy foods

  4. melaine profile image72
    melaineposted 9 years ago

    They complain about the things they do and point out mistakes all the time!

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      So true, many parents routinely critique their children for EVERY mistake and they wonder why their children do not possess ANY initiative?  Well, by these stupid parents' criticisms, their children are AFRAID to do and try anything!

  5. peeples profile image95
    peeplesposted 9 years ago

    I'm not sure I can think of ten all at once. I'd say anything on the two sides of extreme. Yelling, spanking (on regular basis), telling them they can't do something, or on the other side doing everything for them, being over protective, not letting them discover their own abilities, or keeping them from using their own brains to make decisions.

    1. shampa sadhya profile image79
      shampa sadhyaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Loved your answer.

    2. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      This is SO true.  I have written hubs and posted threads on this very same issue.Overprotective parents are only HARMING and CRIPPLING their children. yet THEY wonder why their children are so IMMATURE and DEPENDENT  plus having no GET UP & GO.

  6. DDE profile image44
    DDEposted 9 years ago

    Parents do the following to destroy a child's confidence:

    Slapping a child across their face
    Name calling
    Often degrading them with harsh words
    The constant shouting
    Abusing a child physically, and emotionally
    When parents don't take proper care  for their children
    No love shown toward their children
    The lack of time spent with a child can make a child feel down
    Never praise  a child for  doing their best performances at school or for any activity.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Ah, yes the last one. There are some parents who believe that their children SHOULD and OUGHT to do good without praise. Really cannot figure SOME PARENTS out.- and THEY wonder why their children have low self-esteem and self-confidence. Hmmmmm.

  7. timcwill profile image60
    timcwillposted 9 years ago

    Do you  mean after they feed them, cloth them, provide them shelter, take them for medical care, provide for their education, and generally love them more than they love themselves?

    1. profile image0
      Lizam1posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      The problem with some of those things is that the parents feel they are martyrs and do not engage in a relationship with their children

  8. Jane51 profile image68
    Jane51posted 9 years ago

    These are some of the things that we may routinely do to destroy our childrens self confidence
    1. Being negative instead of being positive most of the time
    2. Critisizing
    3. Not praising enough
    4.Not asking them what they think?
    5.Ignoring them when they ask a question
    6.Over use of discipline methods
    7. Making fun of what they say or wear etc
    8.Not letting them make some decisions for themselves
    9.Not letting them spend time away with grannies, aunties and uncles,friends etc
    10. Lack of affection from parents.

  9. mindyjgirl profile image82
    mindyjgirlposted 9 years ago

    I am constantly reading about how i can boost my child's self confidence, and love my son so much, I teach him how to cook great foods. I hug on him say positive words to him often, I tell him to have a great day every morning and we talk after school about the days events, and make plans for the future. I think most parents let their children watch TV or play video games and do not talk to them, a lot of parents are quick to discipline without hearing what a child has to say. I would hope real physical abuse would not be ROUTINELY used so I am leaving that out. But I think parents do not realize mental abuse, could happen routinely, physiological effects of neglect and non communication, or screaming and yelling at a child can shake a persons core, their self confidence. We always talk about things,here in our house. Our previous marriages taught us that yelling arguing and NIT PICKING just gets nowhere. Look up positive reinforcement is a good way to help with self confidence.
    1. nit picking
    2 Yelling
    5. no communication, no positive words
    6.no future plans together
    7. knee jerk discipline
    8. always grounding child and or saying "no"
    9. No extra thoughtfulness or favor to a child, like cooking their favorite dish
    10 not teaching a child any manners or grace, or how to cook or how to wash their own clothes when they are older at the appropriate ages.
    I hope this helps,

  10. PatriciaBessey profile image60
    PatriciaBesseyposted 9 years ago

    Compare them to other children. Call them names. Not praise them for work well done. Nit pick about small mistakes continuously. Spend more time working or socializing with other instead of their children. Not show up for school events, sports, etc. their children are involved in. Tell kids how much they are alike and then run themselves down. Not listen to their children or take their opinions seriously.


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