Anxiety is fueled by thinking about and living in the future. To counteract this, I use mindfulness to focus on the present. "I Am" statements in my self-talk keep me focused on the here and now, decreasing my anxiety.
Physical illness, by its very nature, leads to depression. Here are four reasons why.
When others seem cold and distant, we automatically assume that they do not like us or are angry with us. This may not be the case. Check out these three things that could be issues.
When stress gets out of control, we experience physical distress to the point that we become ill. To keep this from happening, use these three simple techniques.
During a panic attack, we feel like we are going to die. Rather than going to the emergency room, use these three steps to bring emotions back to a manageable level.
When children experience grief during their early developmental stages, their emotional health is compromised. Our actions as adults can help them work through their grief and learn to trust again.
Our ability to care for ourselves determines the amount of resilience we have, the quality of our emotional health, and our ability to experience happiness in life. There are five critical areas.
Assumptions are a part of our everyday lives. Every decision we make is based upon them. The problem occurs when we make decisions based on assumptions that we have not validated or proven correct.
The difficulties of life are suppose to help us develop patience, but sometimes, they last longer than we think they should. How do we cope when we are at the end of our rope?
Stress and anxiety are both manifest in the form of physical symptoms. With their many similarities, how are we to know the cause of our distress? The answer is simple and easy to use.
Worry and responsibility go hand in hand. At what point can we tell that worry is a problem, and once it is, what can we do about it?
The transitions of life often bring with them emotional baggage that leaves us frustrated and overwhelmed. Using "The Countdown" technique, we make these events happen much more smoothly.
Music has the power to soothe and bless, to inspire and motivate. It is one of the most important tools we have in establishing and maintaining our emotional health.
Sooner or later, we all will face death. We can easily be consumed with it if we are not careful. Courage and faith keep us continuing to choose, even when death is imminent.
It is no fun to be caught between work and family. The conflicts never end, and we don't know which way is up. Is it possible to resolve this issue and still be together?
Life is full of decisions. We all make them. Sometimes, we have to set aside our own personal desires at the moment and do what we know is best in the long run. This isn't easy for anyone!
Whether we are complaining or venting, we are finding and telling others about the negative in our lives. Unfortunately, it does not solve the problems we are facing, it only creates more of them!
Self-doubt is like a contagious virus that gets into our blood stream, leaving us too weak to stand up for what we know is right. It increases our vulnerability and leaves us destitute and alone.
Exaggeration isn't just for little white lies, it is a distorted thought process that creates emotional tidal waves that sweep away everything in their path. Learn how to rein it in with these tips.
Stress can wreak havoc with our personal health and family life. Recognize the signs and figure out the cause in order to reduce the overload.
There is a war going on inside each of us. Sometimes, we feel that we just can't make it and fear takes over. Other times, we have the courage to go forward. What makes the difference?
When someone we love ends their own life, the very foundations of our existence come into question. Only as we turn to God are we able to move on.
The Fear Cure is must read for those dealing with anxiety and its accompanying psychosomatic issues. Fear is real, and no matter where it comes from, we can do something to harness its power for good.
Spending money is an emotional experience. When our emotions are out of whack, what happens to our ability to handle our finances?
Choosing to love others is easy when things are going well, but how do we do it when they are not? Is there a formula we can follow that will help us?
Anger and fear appear to be two very different emotions, but when we look at the thought patterns that are at their roots, the distortions are very similar.
Emotional health is in the headlines these days. Our children need this vital skill to be successful in school and life, but who should be providing them with the instruction?
When we are unable to recognize and deal with our emotional pain, it comes out in the form of physical symptoms or signs. Once we recognize what is happening, we can find the cause and deal with it.
Marriage is getting a bad rap these days. Before you head for the divorce courts, implement these five easy steps. You might be surprised at the results!
When we don't know what it is that we are feeling, we may be dealing with emotional numbness. There are several possible causes, and the solutions may be surprising.
Our expectations can either make our break us. If they are too low, we live our lives bored and unfulfilled. If they are too high, they can cause us emotional turmoil.
Depression is one of the most difficult things we will ever experience. Thoughts of helplessness and hopelessness turn us against ourselves and the world. Is there anything we can do?
Preparedness doesn't just happen. It has to start somewhere. Our future is filled with uncertainty and we constantly face the unknown. There are four basic areas of preparedness on which we can focus.
Although anticipation is neither negative or positive, it is the thoughts we entertain during it that make or break our emotional state. Preparation is key to our ability to handle what comes our way.
Fear immobilizes us. We can't move forward or back. We are stuck in suspended animation until we identify the fear, where it is coming from, and figure out what to do with it.
Words are not just letters on a page, they are the food our souls ingest that enable us to live effectively day in and day out in a world that is rapidly changing.
The crisis is past, the performance is finished, the deadline has been met, and the audience has gone home. Now what?
Where do suicidal thoughts come from? What can we do with them? How can we help those who are having them?
Whether the child is 2 years old or twenty, the words "I hate you!" cut deeply. Our first reaction is to fly off the handle, inflicting pain and punishment. Try this three step approach instead.
We don't realize how important our families are to us until a crisis threatens to take them away.
Embarrassment makes us want to crawl into a hole and cover ourselves up until everyone goes away. Fortunately for us, that is not usually what ends up happening!
Looking up will save us from disaster, not just when we are on the road, but when life is at its darkest.
It is only through experiencing the difficulty of the climb that we appreciate the sweetness of being at the top!
Young children do not come programmed in how to solve the problems of life, they have to be taught. If caregivers do not teach this vital skill, children are a disaster waiting to happen!
Every day, we have the opportunity to assist someone that is in emotional distress. Using this simple three step formula, we can help them work through their crisis.
The condition of our emotional health has a lot to do with the things we allow ourselves to get "hooked on." Whether harmful addictions, or just emotional habits, they affect us in profound ways.
We will all have feelings of loneliness at some point in our lives. What we do with them will determine whether we end up with happiness or misery.
What is it about aging that makes us want to run and hide? We know that we will all die. That isn't really the problem. There is something else that bothers us, even more than our fading capabilities.
Each day in our families, we exercise our faith. Each choice we make, each person we greet, each time we give of ourselves, we make a difference in the lives of those we love.
When we are stuck in a difficult situation and there is no way out, we may feel like it is the end of the world. Thankfully, there is something we can do. Try this simple formula.
Our beliefs are the basis of our assumptions about life. They affect everything we do. If we are not careful, they will undermine our emotional health.
Conflict is inevitable in marriage. It either brings us closer together or pulls us apart, depending upon what we do with it.
Anxiety is like a wild horse, unstable and unpredictable. In order to tame it, we use the same self-calming techniques that are used in the training of horses. Then we can ride like the wind!
There is a tug-of-war going on inside each of us. We feel we are winning when good triumphs, but what happens when it does not? We feel knocked down, even punished, though we have done nothing wrong.
When we allow grief to do its work, we experience a wide range of emotions, both negative and positive, as our lives adjust themselves to the loss we have experienced.
Identity is not just about the cards in our wallets, it is the window through which we view and experience the world. When difficult things happen, we often need to re-establish a new world view.
The difficult experiences of life often leave us feeling robbed, defeated, and susceptible to exploitation. In this state of vulnerability, we are at risk of loosing the very thing we need to survive.
Excitement is an anticipatory emotion. Left unchecked, it can evolve into worry, and eventually to anxiety. Setting limits on anticipation keeps this from occurring.
We never know when our time will be. It is best to prepare in advance, for the sake of our loved ones. With current technology, it doesn't have to be costly.
Whether our loss is from death, divorce, or dismemberment, there are adjustments that need to be made. The better we understand them, the sooner we can find enjoyment in life again.
We are taught all of our lives that choosing death is a wrong, yet when we are faced with its certainty, we have to make some difficult choices.
Sometimes life throws us a curve ball that throws us in a tailspin. Follow these simple steps to get back in the game.
Every family has problems, no matter what their constitution or circumstances. Rather than looking at what we don't have, we need to look at what we do.
Disappointment is all around us, whether due to unfulfilled expectations and dreams or let downs in our relationships with others. If we check the negative thoughts, we can minimize the pain we feel.
Difficulties come to us from many different sources. Use this simple strategy to get your life back on track, no matter what you are dealing with.
Setting boundaries is not a cut-and-dried activity. Every person is unique and requires different techniques to help them make wise choices. Use these guidelines to facilitate the process.
Feeling overwhelmed is like having the world on our shoulders. We can't move it because the burden is so heavy, and yet we don't know what to do. The techniques in this hub will help.
We all experience days when things just don't go the way we want. We feel like the world is against us, and there is just no way to make it worse. Use those days to learn how to make life better.
Holidays can be very stressful on a family with all of the socials, parties, and family dinners. Work together as a family to plan those things you would like to do for a successful celebration.
We often think of tradition in relationship to holiday celebrations. A tradition is also a regular practice we incorporate into our family life that promotes meaning, purpose, and unity.
Our greatest joys and deepest sorrows are experienced in the family. Savoring the good times fills us with a reservoir of memories that keep us afloat when the storms of life threaten.
There are primary and secondary roles and responsibilities within the family. Primary are biologically based according to male and female; whereas secondary are divided among family members.
We all wish we could have more patience, but how does it happen? There is no magic formula, but understanding the quality and how we can use it in life will help.
Some teenagers have attitudes that cause major problems within the family circle. Read to find out how to recognize and deal with it.
As we prepare for the death of those who are close to us, we may experience grief before the event even occurs. This can become problematic when it changes the way we feel and act toward them.
We all look forward to that day when we are no longer employed in the work force. Unfortunately, life sometimes take us places that we had not originally anticipated. Take time now to prepare.
Even the best of the best have their days of difficulty. How do they get through it? Discouragement is a part of our daily lives. Use resolve to make it a thing of the past.
Families are the most important relationships we have in this life. Take the quiz to find out if your worry is leading to issues that are problematic.
Abuse intimidates and demeans, leaving a person feeling worthless and helpless. Is it possible to stop it?
Having a loved one with mental illness is difficult. Helping them requires an understanding of their illness, what is best for their general welfare, and sometimes, a bit of tough love.
The principal of the school provides vital leadership to the Individual Educational Planning Team, along with much needed moral support for teachers, service providers, and parents.
Teaching a child with special needs is difficult, whether you are a parent or a teacher. Communication between school and parents enables both to experience success.
Guilt is the body's red flag to let you know when you have done something wrong. If you have a guilty conscience, your family is at risk. Take the steps necessary to protect them now.
Conversations skills are essential for success in the workplace. It is in and through conversation that relationships are built. The five skills listed in this hub are the basis of good conversation.
The clock is ticking and you haven't much time. You need cleanliness and order fast. You throw on your stretch pants, tank top and tennis shoes, and you are ready to go! What now?! Where to start?
Prayer is powerful. Without it, life is empty and meaningless. Marriage without prayer is like trying to plant seeds without giving them the necessary water and sunshine to make them grow.
Marriage begins with romance. In order for the marriage to continue, romance must be re-kindled on a regular basis. Marriage without romance becomes stale and unfulfilled.
Depression is one of the most common debilitating conditions known to the human race. Having a loved one that is depressed leaves chores undone, love unexpressed, and expectations unfulfilled.
Every family is different. In spite of these differences, we all have one thing in common. Family members are the people that we are with during the most important parts of our day.
Our children will experience problems in their friendships. As their parents, we can best help by lending a listening ear, and reflecting back to them the feelings that they express.
Guardianship is court ordered parenthood. It can be granted over any adult that is incapacitated by mental or physical illness or disability. Guardianship enables decisions to be made in behalf of the individual that are in their best interest when they are not in a position to do so for...
Clozapine is being prescribed for the treatment of schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder, and severe bi-polar disorder when treatment with other anti-psychotic medications has been unsuccessful.
When our daughter was suspected of having schizoaffective disorder, it was time for us to do some investigating. We found that it is a combination of the symptoms manifested in bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. The resulting psychotic break required our daughter to be in the mental health unit...
Teenagers want their independence and most parents want to give it to them. In order to make it happen, teenagers need to learn how to choose wisely. Their choices affect them all of their lives.
Life has many critical moments, and most of them affect us as individuals within the family setting. Marriages are strengthened or weakened depending upon how we deal with these moments.
Keeping love alive in the midst of the day to day activities of the family can be difficult, but it is possible. Read on to find ways that you may not have thought of before.
In order to understand students with disabilities, it is necessary to understand where disabilities come from, how they are identified, and what can be done to help them.
With the advent of the Response to Intervention process, IQ testing has been getting a lot of publicity. Many believe it is not needed, others feel it is still a valid method of obtaining information.
Fear of the unknown is frequently the basis for worry, and the resulting physical symptoms can be troublesome. Although based on real life situations, fear is perpetuated by irrational beliefs.
Fear is a difficult emotion. It freezes a person in their tracks and causes physical symptoms that just won't go away. Worry is its constant companion. Recognizing what we fear is the first step.
In order for children to change their behavior, it is necessary for the adults in their lives to take action. Just as weeds grow in every garden, negative behavior is automatic.
No one is immune from abuse, whether abuse of the self, children, or others. Child abuse is a growing concern, especially in the United States, and Pinwheels for prevention is raising awareness.
Children are naturally curious. They want to feel, hear, touch, taste, and smell. Water allows them to experience all of these in multiple ways. The Savior, as the water of life, can be experienced through multiple senses when we allow our children to be integrally involved in our family's...
Everyone needs someone to talk to. Having a strong support system is a great way to be emotionally healthy and keep self and other abuse out of our lives.
Journaling is a great way to change your thoughts, feelings, and actions. There are many ways to go about it, and using the computer opens up avenues not available elsewhere.
We thought we knew what to look for with Internet fraud. But this wasn't about our identity, nor did it come from the Internet. Our computer just plain wasn't working right and would frequently tell us that it needed to send another error message. Of course, we sent the messages. They are supposed...
Receiving a star quilt from a Native American is an honor. Not only does it represent a significant relationship with that person, but a significant contribution to their life. People give and recieve star quilts at births, deaths, graduations, and farewells. Learn how to make a star quilt and what...
Positive statements and actions that build feelings of self-worth are all around us. Some are from people we know, others come simply because we are human beings in a world of living things.
Negative emotions are a part of life, but that don't have to control us. We can change them by recognizing them and the thought processes that lead to them, then focusing on their opposites.
Abuse hurts, no matter the type or source. It damages the soul of the individual and leaves one feeling vulnerable, worthless, and hopeless.
Anger is a strong emotion. It occurs when you are faced with situations or behaviors you do not like or agree with. The automatic reaction to these situations is a strong negative feeling.
Emotions affect all major systems of the body. Circumstances are processed through the past experience files of the brain. The results then trigger specific responses in the systems of the body.
Are you fighting DRAGONS, Depression, Rage, Anxiety, and Other Negative Self-Esteems? Learn how to identify the enemy, what weapons to use, and how to come out alive!
Fault finding often leads to physical punishment, and frequently is administered to more than the guilty party. Unproductive guilt and its accompanying negative emotions are a byproduct.
It is easy to blame our unhappiness on things that have happened in the past, or to think that if certain things happen, then we will be happy. Unfortunately, neither option works.
Having a large family is not easy. It takes time to provide for their needs and see that everyone learns what they need to; however, life lessons are much more likely to be learned in a large family.
We encourage our children to imagine, pretend, and use their minds to take them from place to place while they read. When we get to be adults, however, such things are considered to be juvenile. Unfortunately, it leaves us without one of the greatest tools available for changing how we feel.
Tragedy is difficult. It takes away all that is familiar in life. In an effort to find our way, we redefine ourselves, our relationships, and our circumstances. We come to terms with the unknown.
It is hard to believe that an inanimate object can teach a person something. That is what happened when I brought an artificial tree into my home. I didn't realize that I would have to do something to make it look nice, but when I did, a miracle happened.
Change can happen. It isn't automatic, though. First we have to recognize the need for it, then resolve that we want it. The opportunity to change occurs in a split second.
Teenagers that are having issues usually show outward signs of distress. Recognizing the signs and dealing with the issues as they arise allows relationships of trust to remain solid.
Oftentimes, the memories we have of our parents are the times that were difficult in our childhood, yet when we realize the things that our parents went through in their lives, they did the best they could.
Once babies start to move around, the safest place for them is the floor. Unfortunately, there are still issues that must be addressed, including cleanliness, temperature, and stairways.
Stress happens to everyone. Without it, we wouldn't have the energy to move and do things. Stress becomes problematic when it causes physical symptoms. Changing our focus will decrease the stress.
The ability to make decisions affects everything we do and is a major part of our emotional health. Use good habits to keep daily decisions to a minimum, and set goals to guide big decisions.
Responsibility and respect go hand in hand. As children learn responsibility, they form better opinions of themselves and others. They are more obedient, and understand what is expected of them.
Kindness is the language of love. Children identify readily with someone who is kind to them. Correction does not have to be harsh. Harshness is equated with a lack of love.
There are many sources of difficulty in life. Some come from our own choices and actions and some come from the choices and actions of those around us.
God speaks to us through the scriptures and the words of others. We speak to him through prayer. It is possible to pray any time, any place. Certain prayers are formal, others are informal.
Faith is a many faceted principle. It is not a static event or a personality characteristic. Rather it is a process whereby we come to know God.
Toddlers are eager to please the adults in their lives. Adults are responsible for teaching them skills. Taking the time now will mean obedience later as relationships of trust are developed.
Trust is the first thing children learn after birth. It is built on the premise that their needs will be met by those who care for them and continues only as the child's needs continue to be met.
The young adults years are full of decision making. Life at home is not the same as dependence gives way to independence, yet roots have not been established outside of the immediate family.
Terrific teenagers do not happen automatically, they are grown through an understanding of the changes they face. Identity, the purpose of life, peer groups, and gender roles all have a place.
Children from the ages of 10-12 are in the "preteen" group. Many changes are happening to their physical bodies and they may feel uncomfortable with themselves and others, especially their peers.
Instilling positive behavior in children requires teaching before, during, and after. Children need to understand what is expected of them.
Toddlers can be a challenge for any parent. They want to be independent yet do not know everything they need to do so. It is best to establish a relationship of trust and teach skills.
Thoughts and actions are integrally connected. If thought patterns are irrational, then inappropriate actions will follow. Identification of thought patterns allows them to be changed.