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Is the bond between a woman and her child stronger than the bond with her self?

  1. Born2care2001 profile image81
    Born2care2001posted 5 years ago

    Is the bond between a woman and her child stronger than the bond with her self?

    In other words, is the motherly instinct stronger that self preservation. If so, where does choice come in?

  2. fpherj48 profile image75
    fpherj48posted 5 years ago

    Oh....born2care......I can speak for myself....THIS mother.....while easily assuming for other mothers, based on my years of life's experiences with them......but with every fiber of my being, I know that the bond between a woman and her child is the most fierce and incredibly powerful force imaginable....
    My motherly instinct goes to unending eons of space beyond self-preservation......
    Quicker than the blink of an eye, I would give up my life for my child....
    THIS is where choice comes in, for that would me my choice, without thought or question........from the moment of their conception to all eternity..............

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      Starmom41posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      yes, exactly what she ^  said   smile

  3. GPAGE profile image78
    GPAGEposted 5 years ago

    When you are raising children it is hard to think about yourself and your needs. Til this day I have always put my children's needs in front of my own. They will always be #1! As they get older I will give more to myself......life is short and they will be adults before I know it!

    1. fpherj48 profile image75
      fpherj48posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      GPAGE......I like your comment.     Your last sentence?   I said that for years....."Once they're grown and on their own, I can finally have time for me and do what Mom wants to do."
      Silly me...10 Grandchildren and 1 Great-grandchild later.........

  4. onegoodwoman profile image77
    onegoodwomanposted 5 years ago

    your readers, and perhaps, even yourself...............WANT me to say, YES.................


    the fact of the matter is this..........................there is NOTHING stronger than the sense of self perservation.


    Life is easy..........until, you find yourself......pitted against your greatest fear.    That is the way, that it is.


    Most of us................have never been asked to meet such fear  head on.   Those of us, who have...............well, we simply know.


    Mothers everywhere, lament this cold hard fact.   In fact, my own self stands wanting a replay.

    1. Born2care2001 profile image81
      Born2care2001posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Well, onegoodwoman,
      I'm not stepping into this trap...Hahaha.
      I will say this from a man's perspective, albeit without children, I believe there is a point where you have to cut the cord. Co-dependency would be a reason for example. Very Unhealthy!

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    Garifaliaposted 5 years ago

    Anotther excellent question. Well for some of us, yes my friend it is. But that goes for men as well; the not having bonded with themselves. It all depends on the person.
    I think now that I'm 50, I've finally got to the point where I think I've bonded with myself. Have you?

  6. peachpurple profile image82
    peachpurpleposted 5 years ago

    When I become a mother to my 2 children, I would do anything for them. Everything about them come in first, regardless of food, education, free time, you name it. A woman bond with the child is much stronger than herself because that is the nature of a mother.

 
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