What to do with a troubled teen who doesn't want to be home?

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   albertovichposted 12 years ago

   What to do with a troubled teen who doesn't want to be home?
   
   Has anybody gone thru this situation?

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   JThomp42posted 12 years ago

   Get them counseling. Teen years are tough enough. Let the therapist get to the bottom of the teens anger.

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      menashposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I dislike when people think counseling solves everything.....it doesn't

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It helps. Definitely couldn't hurt.

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      menashposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Your wrong....because now the teen thinks he or she has a problem when in reality all they have....is just being a teen

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      We have no way of assuming that from this question. If they want to call the shots? Let them get a job and support themselves. I was 18 once and thought I knew it all. I was VERY SERIOUSLY WRONG!!

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      menashposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      well you were an unintelligent 18 year old......you have to give them space...and abandoning them makes the parents the bad ones....be tough and slap them up but don't abandon them.....they are going through a short phase.....

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   menashposted 12 years ago

   Live at home....but at the same time do your own thing...

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Are you saying the teen should be able to do their own thing? Under their parents roof?

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      menashposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      to a certain extent....give them space....if someone invades that space it'll be world war 3

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I was as most 18 year olds are. The comments you are making are making me wonder your age? 18 or 19? Just like I was told, You have a lot of living and learning to do my friend. Respect your parents by all means. You will not have them forever.

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      menashposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You see you are changing the subject.....who cares about my age...if i make an intelligent argument.....you counter instead of changing the subject....i probably respect my parent more than you do.

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Now you are showing your age wasting my time. I would suggest being a parent before giving parental advice.

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      menashposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I know a lot about this stuff...and I can't disagree more with your view....

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Agree to disagree. By the way I'm a Psychologist.

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   Msinformedposted 12 years ago

   Without knowing the age, gender, and reason for labeling the teen as "troubled" my advice would be to talk with the teen and ask him or her why he or she does not want to be at home. Teen years are filled with difficult transitions, self identity, self awareness, peer pressure, and finding independence. Most teens who act out are struggling with the above. However, this is usually a good sign for parents because it is lets them know they need help. Finding a good councelor that the teen feels comfortable talking to would be ideal. However, if the teen refuses to speak with one, this is of little help. Maybe there is a family member, or family friend the teen feels comfortable speaking with. The point is to get the Teen to talk and be prepared to listen not shut them off because you do not like what they say.

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   peachpurpleposted 12 years ago

   My friend is having this problem now. Her son doesn't want to be at home because he wants to be with his "gang" So, my friend had to agree everything he ask for in order for him to come back home everyday. My opinion, she is spoiling him. She tried to talk to him but he refused to listen and rebuked her. Her son is totally a let down. I would have tied both his hand and feet or ground him at home and stop schooling since he hated school so much.

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   Elskemekposted 12 years ago

   As a person who recently went threw this(about 4 years ago), i know the feeling of having personal issues and not wanting to be home.
   
   It honestly depends on the situation. Is there yelling? Privacy for the teen? Nagging?Do they get lonely and simply need friends so they leave?Is there drinking at home? Do they do drugs? There could be a whole list of reasons why.
   
   I can only speak on a personal level but when i had this issue it was because i didn't feel i had the space i wanted. I wanted my personal space. The house felt cramped and uncomfortable. I didn't like the people at my house(my family) so every chance i could get, i left.

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