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Can you be both a friend and a mother to your children?

  1. profile image59
    hmartin1233posted 5 years ago

    Can you be both a friend and a mother to your children?

  2. Diana Lee profile image82
    Diana Leeposted 5 years ago

    Yes, you can be both friend and mother to your children. I believe my kids are the best friends I have.

  3. cloverleaffarm profile image78
    cloverleaffarmposted 5 years ago

    Yes, you can, but being mother comes first. They have to know that you are there for them as a friend, but also have to know that the rules are made for a reason. Putting the "friendship" part first can cause a lot of issues.

  4. Sharkye11 profile image93
    Sharkye11posted 5 years ago

    Yes indeed. My mother is my best friend. And I really mean that. She is the person that  I text all the time, the friend I go to visit, the person I call up to go shopping or out to lunch.

    I know I can always depend on her and trust her with even my deepest secrets, and she can trust and depend on me the same way. I wouldn't trade her for a million outside friends.

  5. bethany_p profile image60
    bethany_pposted 5 years ago

    I think that there is definitely a time and a place for both.  When a child is young, and discipline and boundaries are the rules, friendship is rare, you are a parent, you are establishing how life will be.  When they are older and things are established, if there isn't rebellion, you can be a friend.  As soon as there are problems, of any kind, I believe you are a mother.

    1. profile image59
      hmartin1233posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I am reminded of a quote by Oscar Wild "Children begin life by loving their parent's when they grow they begin to judge them".

  6. mommymaya profile image60
    mommymayaposted 5 years ago

    I have always believed that children will have many many friends in their lifetime but they will only have 1 mother. It is a parents job to make sure that children grow up with discipline and responsibility so sometimes it is hard to be their friend when you have to be their parent. Having a strong and friendly relationship is important for any child/parent but I think that being a loving mother is more important than being their friend. Once the child grows up and makes their own way and own decisions in life, I definitely feel that the relationship can become a friendship.

  7. old albion profile image72
    old albionposted 5 years ago

    I agree with bethany p. As a young child you need to be a mother, friendly and loving but also a figure of authority. As your child gets older boundaries have been set and met. Everyone knows where they are, and what is acceptable. The friendship factor comes in as your child emerges from the angst of being a teenager. Usually the friendships are more between mother and daughter, womens issues become more apparent and advice is sought from mum. In a loving family this advice is given and the young daughter begins to see mum in a different light.
    Graham.

 
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