How were you disciplined as a kid?

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  1. profile image52
    pinapple123posted 5 years ago

    How were you disciplined as a kid?

    and how does your parenting style differ from that of your parents? what exactly are you doing differently and why?

  2. freedomsthoughts profile image60
    freedomsthoughtsposted 5 years ago

    I had my bottom smacked or lost privileges.  As a parent, I do not smack their bottoms unless it's a life threatening issue, such as running across the road without an adult.  I use a colour system for our children.  Each day is a new beginning, every child starts on green. Yellow (calm your behaviour) -is a warning.  Red (Stop your negative behaviour)  each colour reaps its own rewards or consequences. The consequences range form writing sentences related to the issue at hand and/or losing cell phone and any other hand held devices for the rest of that day.  This has taught them that their expensive items are not necessary, but  are a privilege. 

    I had much growing up, I learned less responsibility. I did not have to behave to keep it and I always expected  more no matter how I behaved.

  3. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    To be honest there wasn't much reason for me to be disciplined as a kid.  I ws pretty docile and cooperative. I was an only child. Once my parents were gone when I was 15, I moved in with my aunt and uncle. They "grounded" which I suppose could be effective except that I made it my mission to misbehave and not get caught - if my mouth was open I was lying. 

    With our kids, we didn't spank, we used a lot of humor, a lot of talking. If someone got really angry or upset, they could do to their room for a few minutes to calm down. They could tell us anything and we would listen and not get angry (not always easy). We had two daughters and neither one was ever a problem with behavior.  We talked a lot though, about everything, what was wrong, why it was wrong.  We'd use TV as a teaching tool when we watched programs where kids behaved outrageously.

    They both turned out to be lovely and loving young women.

  4. Lisa HW profile image67
    Lisa HWposted 5 years ago

    My parents pretty much just talked things to death.    LOL      They actually did a pretty good job of talking about the right things BEFORE we faced the choices to do something we shouldn't;  and they did a good job of helping us to understand why it was we should behave well and respect other people and property in general.  So, I didn't do all that much wrong (compared to a lot of kids).  I did do the occasional stupid stuff "that seemed like a good idea at the time", though.    When I did they'd talk it to death, making it seem like far less of a "good idea" by the time the grueling re-hash and questioning and explaining was done.    LOL

    With my own kids, I aimed to do as good a job of the "before-the-fact" kind of talking and aimed to be a little more understanding and quite a bit less "grueling" when an "after-the-fact situation" was being addressed.  I like to think I "perfected" the whole thing.  My kids have expressed their approval and appreciation of my approach to me and told me they plan to take the same kind of approach.  I suspect, too, though, there's a good chance they may be able to further refine and perfect the approach.

    Having said all that, I don't pretend there weren't those many times when I muddled through on a case-by-case basis when it came to choosing what to say, when to say it, and how often to say it.  I always let what was good, cool, sense and solid reason be guide, because those are things even children tend to recognize when they run into them.  My parents went with the "good, cool, sense and solid reason" thing too.  It's just that they weren't quite as good with some "cool sense" (rather than "emotional sense") and occasionally weren't all that solid with reasoning when it came to their not always seeming to realize that when kids do some of the stupid things they do it doesn't always mean they're headed for a life of crime or "floozy-dom"   (as when my thirteen-year-old sister went against the no-lipstick rule and put some on under the street-light and on her way to a party with her friends).

    Why I modified my parents' approach:  I believe that talking is most effective when otherwise good sense and sound reasoning aren't marred by over-reaction, a little too much worry, a little too little understanding, or a little more guilt than a kid should feel when he's done nothing more than mess up because he's a kid, and even some awfully good kids do some awfully stupid things.

    1. profile image52
      pinapple123posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Was your life as a child and a parent like a comedy or something? this is my idea of comedy at best, or comical tragedy at worst. But it definitely has comical traits. Thanks for answering. It is very interesting.

 
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