Is it wrong to make your children work for the things they want?
Not at all.
Your children will have far more respect for something that they had to earn rather than something they were simply given.
It is also a valuable life lesson to have to work for what you want.
That doesn't mean that you should never give them things and so much depends on how old they are. The older they are the more important it becomes for them to work for what they want.
No. It teaches them responsibility. It also shows them you must work for what you get in this world. Nothing is just handed to you and nobody owes you anything. It is getting them prepared for life.
Only if it's WRONG to teach your children, responsibility, accountability, self-reliance, the rules of income & expense, being productive, self-respect.........you get my drift. It can't possibly be wrong to guide our children in the ways of the world....and the rules of life.
It depends on what they want. Are they necessities, things for school, basic needs?As parents we have the responsibility to provide those things. It is good to teach children that they can have power over their lives by working to get the things they want (within reason). They learn to be discerning in what they want, and they learn responsibility. They will also take a lot of pride in the item is they earned it.
We would let our kids know that we would help if it was something important. If they wanted a new CD player and showed a lot of initiative in working to earn the money, we would help a little bit so it wasn't an impossible goal.
It depends on how much you get them to work. If they do something reasonable to get what they want, it makes sense. If you tell them they can get a piece of candy if they clean the entire kitchen including rubbing down the counter tops, doing the dishes, unloading the dishwasher, clearing the fridge, and organizing the pantry; then no.
My wife and I raised four children while giving them reasonable chores and holding them accountable for getting them done in a timely, efficient manner. The three oldest are now married and the youngest is in college. We never had a late night call from the police, never heard a bad word regarding them from their teachers or classmates, and never had to deal with attitude or drug problems. Teach them what is right and they will do right.
I tend to forgo the money aspect of it if I can, and teach them to build it themselves. Usually it starts with a trip to the library for research...
Lee @ Lee's Teas
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