Can someone give me some advice on this please?! Thankyou
My daughter has always lied about stuff she has a very bad angry spirit about herself something I always feared and she is now telling me at the age of 21 that my current husband of 20 years molested her between ages 7-14 and had sex with her once she was always permicuious and she didn't come to live with me until she was 7 she said this to me after I didn't want to be back in her life so I don't know if she is doing it.on a revenge or is she serious she dont give any details so what do you think?? Thank you in advance oh btw she is a middle child of 5 and the only girl....
I feel for you and do send you my empathies. It is a very delicate one and please forgive me, as you may get better answers here.
How to you feel about having another chat with your daughter?
How do you feel about approaching your husband?
You seem to care and she seems the same. So what caused this talk of not wanting to be back in her life?
So many things require prayer and a contrite heart. How do you feel about offering up your struggles to God? If you practice regularly on a daily basis, nightly and just before retiring, You may find yourself arriving at a solution soon.
I trust that others here can help more, but if necessary, it may be useful to seek council from a supportive group. She is 21 and perhaps will need to agree. My prayers are with you. Loving thoughts.
This is a very tough question for numerous reasons. Naturally if you daughter had told you about this over the course of the (7 years) it allegedly took place it would be a "no brainer" to confront your husband.
You stated it was only (after) you made it clear that you did not want her back into your life that she revealed these allegations to you and she also refused to provide you additional details.
I believe you are going to have to trust your gut instincts on this one. Do you believe your daughter is capable of being so vindictive as to want to destroy your marriage of 20 years or do you believe you married to a child molester. You've painted a picture of your daughter which includes ample ammunition for why she is not the most reliable person in the world but you did not say anything about your observations of your husband.
The fact that you're even asking the question is an indication that on some level you believe there is a "chance" your daughter might be telling the truth. If you thought your daughter was without a doubt a vile liar you would have dismissed her comments immediately as another attempt to manipulate you.
If you don't believe your daughter and have no plans to be a part of her life you can act like you never heard this and continue to living your life. One thing is for certain if you broach the subject with your husband it will forever change your marriage.
You might offer to go into therapy sessions with your daughter.
If she refuses to do it then maybe it was all a lie to hurt you. If she really wants to be in your life she'll say "yes" just to have the opportunity to spend time with you at the very least. And if she does say yes maybe during your sessions together you'll uncover the truth about the alleged incidents or at the very least develop a mutual understanding of how you hurt one another over the years which led to the current state of your relationship. Best wishes!
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