Us baby boomers have a lot to offer. I'd be interested in hearing what other BB's have to say about it. Also, who would you like to thank?
First, I have mixed feelings about aging. I'm now in the home stretch but plan to make the most of it.
Second, I advise younger folks to learn from your mistakes, think before you act and share it with others.
Third, I thank God, my Mom (now deceased), and I thank Mary Kay (and Retin-A).
Oh not yet there, but thanks for this, must be horrible to look in the mirror and you get wrinkles, but it is life
You are looking just wonderful. I have seen many beautiful women over 50. A lot of women say it is the best time in their life as they are looking after themselves much better than in their 20's.
Thank you blondpoet. It's important for us aging boomers to get an ego boost. I would like to thank Mary Kay and Retin-A for my longetivity.
I have decided to let nature takes it's course. I no longer dye my hair, it is all natural. Gray, blondish, brown..giving the appearance of a professional job. I've had several hairdressers comment on my unique hair color.
I want to age gracefully. I must say I'm feeling better about myself than I ever have, excercise cardio/strength train 3 times a week and stay in single digit clothing.
Here's to the Boomers!
I started covering my grey 5 years ago. A lot of my contemporaries have been dying their hair for years, so consider myself quite fortunate in that respect. I rely on my looks for my tv extra work and singing when I'm able and being very dark its a real shock when the grey shows. It only takes an hour every 6 weeks or so and considering some women spend a couple of hours every 2 weeks or so in the hairdresser it certainly isn't overkill.
My sexuality is very bound up with how I feel and my perceptions about my body.
I enjoy making myself look nice without being obsessive, eat the right foods, take vitamin supplements. Eat a dairy, gluten, wheat, yeast, sugar, and starch free diet. Drink alcohol very very moderately, don't smoke and I still have a 28" waist. I swim once a week, walk, practice pilates.
Who knows I may go under the knife but not yet.
Just like me then. I finally gave up dying my hair last year after having to dye it for 30 years - I started going grey at 21. Now my hair is a mix of blonde, white and grey which is funny considering I was never blond when young. In fact my hair was really dark!
Now my hair is long and natural. Like the belly, boobs and everything else about me - everything is going south!
But then I knew that would happen one day.
I've got no problems with ageing, I just wish I had the same information in my head when I was young that I do now. I might have done things so differently!
I am sixty, looking like I am forty. I teach school, sixth grade, for the last 28 years. They keep me young and I am fit so they have to keep up with me. I have been making my own soap and body butters for the last 11 years. I was so tired of buying this for my face, this for under the eyes etc; so I came up with my own recipes and now I have many followers who purchase my product in Utah. No one, not one person should feel they are getting older , but aged as an expensive bottle of wine. One should love themselves, know what they eat, drink, and put on their bodies. Being happy , meditating and never reject a compliment but say , "Thank you"
I must agree...and thanks for reactivating the thread!
I would like to know your recipes for great looking skin. I am 56 and still get compliments of not looking my age. I problem I do have is some bags under my eyes.
I do have skin products I use and have been using this brand since about late 2006. But have lately started making my own deodorant and would like to make my own skin products too. I do not want harmful chemicals getting into my bloodstream. What is the best solution for the skin, especially the face? And also, are commercial sunscreens safe for use?
A couple of ideas; sometimes low levels of iron will show up as dark circles under the eyes.
Fresh pineapple has an enzyme which is a great exfoliant. Rub a piece on the skin. It will probably tingle slightly but is harmless. Leave it on the skin for just 30 seconds or so and rinse off with warm water. You will start to see your complexion even out after awhile if you do this once a week. It's also wonderful for acne sufferers though it will sting a bit more at first.
It's not so bad alexandria...everyone will get there sooner or later. Thank you for commenting to help get this thread started.
I'm 51, and I 'm enjoying it! It's definitely better than the alternative! lol
We are both 51 and proud of it! Thanks for contributing.
Tell ya ladies, at 55 I feel better now than I did at 25. Haven't slowed a step. Having 5 boys has kept me younger than I could have ever hoped.
I wish I felt better at 59. Things have gone downhill healthwise since I turned 50. Facial neuralgia through mismanaged wisdom tooth extraction. Osteoporosis diagnosis, bad migraines since mid 30's which have got worse and bad back problems which are chronic . Await
I have been very active bringing up 2 children on my own, working full time, decorating, gardening and at the time of life when I have my freedom with less responsibilites I have been ambushed by these problems.
Fortunately I have been lucky with looks being taken for someone 10 years younger but my social, work life and relationships are affected.
i am 51 and many think i am alot younger but my body feels like 80. i used to have sever migraines but with the help of the Cleveland Clinic and their headache clinic I have been migraine free for a few yrs now if only the same thing would happen for my fibromyalgia. i am determined to only get better from here on but it's hard when i cant get out of bed til after noon. it's great to here everyone tell their ways of making this a positive time in their life. thank u for this forum. Christie1879- Ohio
Oops - forgot my advice:
The longer you carry a grudge, the heavier it gets.
aging is ok, when you're feeling healthy! Wrinkles and gray hair are ok too - its just that this is such an ageist society = when I let my hair go gray people started calling me Maa'm ! I just laugh! I think, honestly, that we live a little too long, now - our system hasn't caught up with this and as a result the strain on our economy and services is pretty bad - but we're not supposed to talk about it!
I don't mean that people should just die, I mean that we need to find some way to keep people active and give up on this idea of retiring - it's a sham and a shame that people think they'll be happy retired. There must be some way we can cut back on paid work hours and do volunteer hours in the community or within our families. Most people really hate being retired!
For me the idea of sitting in some retirement community and using up my resources on golf and lunches with the girls makes me want to gag! We have some strange ideas about what people should be like as they age - the reality is, we need to stay active and involved!
I fear getting old. i'm half of 50 now and i don't want to get that old.
Seems weird to me too..my kids are older than you! I still think a bit like I did at 25, just with a bit more knowledge.
Be careful, you may get your wish.
Donotfear, don't get too comfortable! At 50, I felt smug - my figure was still holding up, I had very few wrinkles, no grey hairs and I felt fit. Getting old wasn't so bad, I thought!
I'm now into the second half of my fifties and not nearly so impressed. In the last few years, I've suddenly gained a belly, wrinkles appeared seemingly overnight and my whole face is heading south. I'm developing all sorts of niggling aches and pains.
Bottom line is, once menopause hits, aging happens very fast!
Having said all that, I appreciate my life and, as Habee says, it's better than the alternative.
Believe you me friend you must get old as fare as you are still alive.
"OLD" keeps changing young fellow.
We used to say"Never trust Anyone over thirty".
Now it's Ninety lol.
I wrote a hub about being an aging hippy - which is different than being an aging missionary, I would guess. The thing is it is such a shock when you have to give up your ideas about what it is to get older! And when all my life plans and philosophy were mainly about staying young, the inevitability of age is a rude shock. I was not prepared to change my mind about whether I should trust anyone over 30 and the 30 passed so fast and here I am 61 and still a rebel and it just is not too pretty! haha - sense of humor may get a bit strained as it has been overworked lately trying to keep myself in survival mode!
I'm a bit under half of 50 so I can't say much, but my husband keeps filling me in a bit. He turned 50 a few months ago and, despite being in better shape than most men half his age, still laments not being able to do all of the things he did when he was younger. Granted, he played some violent, hard-hitting sports (football, hockey, and boxing) which is why he is now on the verge of admitting he may need new knees. His doctor told him he'd be in a wheelchair by 40 if he didn't get his knees replaced, but that doc WAAAAY underestimated his level of stubbornness
When I turned 50, it just happened that I was a substitute teacher in a class of blind children between 8 and 12 years old. They taught me something about age.
It's not like we can really do much about it other than stay healthy as possible - all I can say is: Do not go quietly into that night!
I try to go quietly at night-- otherwise I wake up the dog.
It's hard to believe (other than when I look in the mirror) that I am soon going to be 61. Maybe I get to be a know it all. because I've had a lot of experiences, etc. but then I learn so much from the younger hubbers every day here that I am humbled every day by trying to keep up with them. ;D
I guess I don't belong posting in this forum because I've not reached that age(41), as of yet.
Just a thought.
I knew I was getting "old" when people started calling me "ma'am". I don't like it, but there could be worse things they might call me. I love painting and that is the thing I live for right now.
It has been quite an adjustment for me having my children all leave the nest. I have taken up gardening and writing to fill in the gap. Letting go of past mistakes and forgiving are still challenges, but I will keep trying.
It is important to keep a positive attitude. If you have a negative way of thinking, try to turn it around before you become a cranky old biddie. Keep active - I still ride my bike every day. My Dad is 83 and still rides his bike too.
And give yourself a break sometimes - take a nap. My grandma said that the reason she lived to be in her 90s was that she took a short nap every afternoon.
Lol...someone called me ma'am once when I was 14...obviously at that point I was still used to "miss" or "young lady" so it kind of threw me. Now that's how my husband refers to me all the time (there is only one answer if I ask him to do something ) so I'm getting a little more used to it.
keep having sex
try not to fight over stupid stuff.
find a sport to participate in
get your yearly fisical
have family over for bbq's
play with the grand kids
teach your kids something new
take a home course in something you like
you will be surprised how many companies will hire you if you show them you are engaged in a class,even over the net as I did.
Good Luck and Happy Camping
I will be 56 in a couple of weeks, and life is better than before.
My daughters are adults and not dependent on me. It is lovely to have them as friends.
I no longer feel the need to seek people's approval for anything I say or do.
Just before I turned 50, I was able to stop being a wage slave and set up as a freelance. Now I no longer have bad managers breathing down my neck and forcing me into their petty little rules. I can do my work how and when I like, and take as many holidays and long weekends as I choose because no one else has a say in the matter. It's up to me whether to let this reflect in lower income or to spend some periods working day and night to make up the balance. I do one or the other depending on how I feel.
I took up running at the age of 50 and three years later participated in 2 half-marathons four weeks apart. That all got a bit shot to pieces for various in the last two years, but I intend to take it up again when the weather improves.
I'm free of a toxic relationship and with the man I love.
I can be as weird as I like. The sweetest sound to my ears is one of my daughters saying "Motherrrrrrrrr, you can't do that!" Oh yes I can!
There is that wonderful poem by Jenny Jones, which I have taken as my anthem. It starts:
"When I am an old woman,
I shall wear purple - -
With a red hat which doesn't go,
and doesn't suit me.
And I shall spend my pension
on brandy and summer gloves and satin sandals..."
All in all, I am enjoying growing old disgracefully even though it does involve the odd twinge here and there and wrinkle or two.
Umm, just turned 50 a couple of weeks back. Feels good. No particular advice
54- guys play stupid and get in the way alot they'll run you off and then you can golf or fish in peace.
My advice would be to approach obstacles with a "how can I overcome it" approach instead of a "how is it stopping me" approach.
When we were kids a hurdle meant an attempt at jumping. And while jumping is getting more and more laughable I still stick by the optimistic state-of-mind that encourages me to think forward and not feel halted by a trial.
Hunter S Thompson said:
“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!’”
Growing old disgracefully is the Way Forward.
First, I'd like to thank the Academy for this great honor. (Chokes slightly...)
With a more serious tone, being 54 is a trip. Life really began for me at 50 when I had to face all the losses and figure out if there was anything that I wanted to live for.
Turns out, I do.
Though it's a cliché, life is what we make of it. We sabotage ourselves more often than others do. Living in the present is the only way to live because the past no longer exists and future hasn't happened. And the only way to make the future wonderful is by what we decide to do right now.
And I like paying it forward. You don't have to have much in life to be a mentor or a help to someone who needs a little help.
You are quite right here Daniel! Very inspiring contribution. I will definetly take it and run with it.
Daniel you are still looking pretty hot to be. I reckon you could give Daniel Day Lewis a run for his money any-day. In fact everyone I have seen on this thread over 50 are looking mighty fine, I hope to look that good when I get there.
In my twenties, I smirkily gave a card to a friend who was turning 50. The card had a punchline that went something like, "Don't worry, people have been known to live for weeks after turning 50". Now that it's almost here (7 months!), I hope the card was right... :0
Someone else already said it better, but it's true. I'm always surprised at my reflection in the mirror. I still feel like 20-year-old-me on the inside.
My (clichéd) advice? Live well, love much, and laugh often.
Me too Lynda. I still feel very young inside. In fact, I catch myself using the old 70's hippie slang quite a bit! I just never quite let it go. I climb over gates, go through fences, chase lost cows, ride horseback and fish with a cane pole. What more can you do to feel young at heart!?
LOL, I said the same in my Hub on non-surgical facelifts. I've been known to catch sight of myself in the mirror and think "who's that old bat?"
I feel like I don't have to take any shit from anybody anymore. I feel like I am not intimidated by anyone anymore. I don't give away my emotional pie so quickly. I am more sure of who I am and what my values are.
Over fifty and I feel fine. I drink more water now, eat better foods, nothing fried anymore and I walk a lot.
I believe we all can slow the aging process if we do the right things and it also helps if we get the right genes passed down from our parents.
Aging well has a great deal to do with how well our parents aged.
I believe that doing the things that bring us joy, engaging in those passions often and surrounding ourselves with encouraging, positive people, will help in assisting to keep us young.
Be good to yourself you only get one shot at this...........
Getting old is better than the alternative, but I don't like it anyway.
I'm halfway to 50, but I feel much older One thing my great grandmother always used to say, especially when people tried to tell her she was too fragile for activities meant for younger people, was, "You're only as old as you feel. The more fun you have, the younger you feel so get out of my way!" My great grandmother was in her 80s and had more energy than I have now. She enjoyed jumping rope with the neighbor kids and watching cartoons on Saturday mornings, was very wise, very fun, and a great comfort to everyone. I can only hope I'll have her attitude about life as I age further.
Unfortunately I have no advice to give seeing as I'm not even close to halfway to 50. I can't imagine what its like to get that old and watch your body slowly turn against you by giving you gray hair and wrinkles. Hopefully science will come up with something by then so I can be young forever!
LegendaryHero, good Lord! What do you think 50 is?!! (It's OK. I thought the same way when I was your age.) Bodies don't have to start "turning against you" at 50. I do the same things now that I did when I was 20 and have more energy. 50% of people don't even start to go gray until 50, and even then it can take a long time before isolated gray hairs need any coloring. I'm not thrilled that I got some fine lines under my eyes about three weeks after I passed my 50th birthday; but if I don't put my reading glasses I can't see them - so I still look 30 to me. I know other people can see them close up - but how often do I get all that close-up to all that many other people who don't have worse lines than I do anyway? Besides, in the "scheme of all possible flaws anyone can have with his/her appearance", I figure a few lines underneath my eyes are kind of the least of my own or anyone else's problems.
I think the worst things for me about being past my 50th birthday is having people in their 60's and 70's still treat me like I'm a kid or having people in their 20's have no idea how "the same as ever, and in a lot of ways better" being 50 (and a little more) can be. (I do kind of like it, though, when 80-year-olds treat me like their kids' age - but only people over 80. I don't mind it when teens and younger think I'm horribly old, because young kids think anyone two years older than they are is old.
To be honest, I wouldn't mind going back to my forties, before the fine lines showed up. Even so, I wouldn't trade where I am, and what I am, now with where and what a lot of people in their 20's are now (or with where and what I was when I was in my 20s) for anything.
If HubPages is still up and running when I've passed my 60th birthday (eh hem... many years from now), maybe I'll have more to complain about. For now, the biggest age-related complaint I have is having to say a number that sounds so old.
I am over 50.
For skin lots of water and sunscreen
For weight take lots of hot baths and walk, do yoga, forget about the published charts. How you feel is more important.
For spirit meditate/pray regularly
For heart, love freely and unconditionally.
It's interesting that most of the respondents on here are women. It would appear, then, that women are more affected by aging than men. Is it true that women are more vain than men? I would tell my ex-wife that coloring her hair was unnecessary. Yet, prior to her bi-weekly visits to the colorist, she would violently yank out any gray hairs. She also had an array of creams and lotions that took up so much space I was forced to move my shaving kit into the second bath. Life is what it is. We are born, we live, we die. The rest is prideful nonsense.
I hate it - I want to get up and down off the floor without it being a struggle!
Growing older is marvelous!
Ok, so your body can't do what it used to do - but your mind can do what it never could do before. There is a calmness and clarity that comes with having some experience under your belt. And too, growing old gracefully is an art form.
Here's to growing old gracefully
I'm also 51.
My advice is to enjoy every breath ya take and give God the glory.
I'm not quite there but almost. Many people think I'm younger to which I reply, "It's because I'm immature." Age is a state of mind. The body does something else and to that I say, just keep on moving.
Double nickel SOON. Got a cataract in right eye. Knees are shot. Gonna be a platinum blond soon, what a long strange trip it's been. Goin' to the end o' the line. We all make it there, but, in spite of everything sliding down the hill, it's great to be here. Wouldn't mind comin' back, just to see what will happen after we're gone.
Hi there, as a woman in her fifties I have to say I feel more confident in myself now than I did twenty years ago. I eat a healthy vegetarian diet and excercise a fair bit. A recent diet has seen me lose quite a few pounds and I feel much better for that.
Donotfear, YOUR amazing beautiful and to think you would have never had to tell us your in your fifties as who would have guessed.
I hope to be as beautiful as you inside and out when I'm nearing fifty.
Thanks for the words of wisdom to all you folks in your fifties.
I always heard poop before you leave the house was good advice when I hit 50 sorry that's all I know about turning 50
At 70, I can only give advice that i hope you will take.
Don't smoke! I did.
Don't drink to excess!
Stay away from drugs!
Eat healthy! I didn't.
Stay active and exercise.
I didn't follow all of these suggestions, and paid the price.
I have had 4 heart attacks, 5 stents, 3 arterial surgeries on my right leg, 1 faciotomy surgery on my right leg, 4 veins taken out of my left leg, for a triple bypass, surgery for 3 aneurisms in my stomach, a surgery to repair a graft in my right groin, and 2.2 centimeters burnt off of my left kidney.
I am currently on blood thinner and other meds. I could have avoided this if I had listened to sound advice when younger.
I currently watch my diet, walk at least 1 mile every morning, and spend as much time with my children and grandchildren as possible.
The only other advice I can suggest, is to not try to keep up with the Joneses. Realize that working toward a mutual goal with your life partner is most important. Also realize that one of the biggest pressures you will have in life, is financial. Live within your means.
Worrying about gray hair or wrinkles is futile. You don't have to impress anyone if you are happy with the person you are inside.
Keep family ties open and get together as often as possible.
Forgive and ask for forgiveness when needed.
Hope you all have a long and happy life.
Hi, what a wealth of great advice...love it! thank you!
I'm a month and a bit away from becoming a sexagenarian (oh mama!)
The 50s have been a blurr... even though I retired along with my husband before 55 and moved into a gentle Island lifestyle, it seems like there aren't enough hours in the day to try new things and learn things I've never even heard about before. I blame the Internet lol. I think the 50s are a serious time of spiritual growth and realizing the importance of developing lasting, healthy relationships (as someone said, drop the grudges). Look for excellent mentors to guide you into the person of great age that you want to become. (some of your mentors might be found in autobiographies, that's okay) I'm in a 40-year marriage and finding that it is probably the high point of our life together... we're more creative, we're more forgiving, and we have developed pretty close to the same whacky sense of humour. Living with an attitude of gratitude (yeah, maybe we are the CLICHE generation after all? lol)is important-- love the one you're with (that would be YOU). Enjoy all the perks (grandparenting, sleeping in, letting your little dog sleep in your bed after years of thinking that was sooo dirty). Keep your brain active. Get out into nature. Cultivate community. Don't trust Big Pharma. Take charge of your own health. Etc. See-- it's limitless!! All the best to everyone!
I'm 62 and don't feel much different than I ever did. I have some gray streaks, but I'm healthy and strong. The main thing I worry about is my eyes - I have severe astigmatism and fear going blind someday.
My wife and I were married in 1967. We eat healthy food and exercise regularly. She is not doing as well as I am - she has bad joint issues and constant pain.
We have had a wonderful life. No complaints. I wish she were free of the pain, but as she says, it could be worse.
PC take a look at Turmeric, it's good for pain relief and is a powerful anti-inflammatory (naturally) but she needs to take it for abut two weeks before it will kick in.
Also cider apple vinegar is good for joint pains, which are normally caused by acidity in the body, there are plenty of hubs on both these solutions.
Now back to the thread.
I'm 59, going on 45 in most areas of life, I still have not grown up and constantly see old men younger than me!
I am just beginning to enjoy being older, and look forward to matching my parents, who made just short of 90!
Never stop adjusting to change, once you get fixed in your life, you start to die.
That's me (¡cos my avatar is just that!)
I'm 34 and i have learned quite Alot from friends over 50 ...
more so than my parents in many ways
I love older people!
i am 50- i hope to grow up soon.....
still feel about 15 though with a few aches and pains
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