PARENTS: How do you feel about getting advice from others on how to raise your children?
Do you like to get advice or do you feel like other people should not butt into how you raise your children? Does it matter who the advice is from: friend, family, stranger? Does it matter to you if the advice giver has children or not?
It depends on the advice and maybe whether I need it or asked for it. I tend to ignore advice that involves corporal punishment, religious tones, cruel and unusual punishment, and consequences that are not a natural or logical response to a behavior. Other than that I am open for advice.
I only liked advice if I asked for it. I can't recall getting a lot of advice when I was raising my girls. People were respectful but I did get told several times by people that it looked like we had fun together...and we really did.
I am always open to constructive or helpful suggestions. As a trained parenting educator and parent I am always cautious about giving unasked for advice. I have received over the years really unhelpful comments from strangers which were unneccesary and critical and I often wonder whether this free advice from a perfect stranger was in fact from a parent. So perhaps their being a parent is important to me.
i don't mind getting advice from family members, friends but my hubby does mind. He hates people interupting our family lifestyle. Hence, i cut down on asking for advice and seek from internet for advice instead.
When I was raising my children, my friends and I (other young mothers) would ask for and exchange parenting advice. Mostly, that was taken well and appreciated. I sometimes asked for advice from older women in my family, especially my mother or mother-in-law.
Unsolicited advice from anyone was not usually appreciated. I think that young mothers especially are a little insecure in their parenting skills and look upon unsolicited advice as criticism. It's too bad because there is much to be learned from the older generation and more experienced parents.
Oh, yes, it matters a lot if the advice giver is a stranger or has children. I sure did not appreciate a stranger or someone without children telling me that I was doing it wrong!
I'd feel appreciative. It could sound like "Hey I know what I'm doing.." but honestly, there are so many things every parent needs to learn for the best of their children. What's wrong with getting an advice? I would even feel glad "that someone" has concern enough to know he/she cares. As long as its constructive and friendly, I would thank him/her. It may be something that can make me a better parent and person, as well. Thanks for asking Dana.
A thousand smiles and blessings to you. - Tonette
I don't have kids, but would appreciate the advice from someone more experience. I guess my approach would be to weigh the advice and apply it at appropriate times.
I perfectly fine with it if it is asked for. If I is given without my request 8 times out of 10, I am going to not like it. I tend to not get so offended if it is from friends or family, but if it were I stranger I think that I would have a major problem with it. And, yes, it absolutely matters if they have kids or not. How can to give advice about something you've never done. It's like the saying "those who can't do teach" (sorry teachers...but you know what I mean).
If I asked, I don't mind the answer, even if I disagree. I will listen and consider it for some time.
If I didn't ask, they can step off! I don't care who it is... That shows no respect - especially if they don't have kids.... Those folks are clueless - even if they're teachers! I was a teacher before I had kids. It is not the same as being a parent... not the same at all! You can't speak of that which you have no knowledge!
by Lisa Brown 6 years ago
How do you feel about getting a tan from a can?
by grinnin1 7 years ago
What advice will you give to your children about getting married?
by Chernika Lipscomb 2 years ago
How do you all feel about Kathy Griffith and the photo of Donald Trump head decapitated?
by Annette Thomas 8 years ago
Us baby boomers have a lot to offer. I'd be interested in hearing what other BB's have to say about it. Also, who would you like to thank?First, I have mixed feelings about aging. I'm now in the home stretch but plan to make the most of it.Second, I advise younger folks to learn from your...
by igniter8503 22 months ago
Why don't people care for their kids anymore??In today's world we see more parents not taking care of their kids the right way either ditching them with other people to take care of or no caring for them in general why do you think this???Their is more kids growing up in foster care or with grand...
by MarieLB 3 years ago
Do you know someone who is smarter than you are, and how do you feel about that person?EG:- You find yourself saying things like "She thinks she knows everything". In your head you hear the corollary "She DOES know everything and that is why she is so annoying."
Copyright © 2019 HubPages Inc. and respective owners. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. HubPages® is a registered Service Mark of HubPages, Inc. HubPages and Hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.
HubPages Inc, a part of Maven Inc.
|HubPages Device ID||This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.|
|Login||This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.|
|HubPages Traffic Pixel||This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.|
|Remarketing Pixels||We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.|
|Conversion Tracking Pixels||We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.|