Some parents let their kids call them by their first names. Do you agree or disa

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  1. Express10 profile image87
    Express10posted 4 years ago

    Some parents let their kids call them by their first names. Do you agree or disagree with this?

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  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    I chose not to have children but if I did have them I would never remove the "buffer" word Dad which separates the way they address me from how they address their playmates.
    Of course I grew up in an era where children addressed all adults as Mr. and Ms. We didn't have 5 year old running around addressing adults by their first name. Being required to use the words Mr. and Ms. helped us keep things in perspective with regard to the fact that we were not "equal" to adults.
    Once we started removing the lines of decorum that came with using "buffer" words of respect when addressing adults boundaries began to be crossed more frequently. Many parents wanted to be considered "cool" or be their child's "best friend". Some even allowed their teens to have overnight stays with boyfriends/girlfriends, and allowed them to drink and get high under their roof. The last thing they wanted to be known for was being a disciplinarian. The role of a parent to prepare their child to become a contributing self-reliant productive citizen. Today it's not uncommon to hear about age 30+ (children) still living in the nest!

    1. Express10 profile image87
      Express10posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Amen! I also choose to not have children but still could never imagine my child calling me by my first name. There would be a swift and firm correction that would last a lifetime!

  3. liesl5858 profile image88
    liesl5858posted 4 years ago

    In my country{Philippines} we are taught to be polite to whoever is older than us that includes everybody especially our grandparents and parents. We do not call our parents by their names because to us, it is disrespectful. We address them as mama and papa, mommy and daddy or tatang and nanang, itay and inay. It is disrespectful to call them by their names. But as we belong to different cultures then maybe in other cultures it is allowed, but for us it is a no, We respect our parents not to call them by their names.

    1. Express10 profile image87
      Express10posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      My grandfather + great grandpa were Filipino. My dad was a loving, no nonsense type that taught us to be polite + respectful. To each his own I guess but I am still shocked by this disrespect whenever I see it .

  4. jlpark profile image82
    jlparkposted 4 years ago

    Not my kids - not my place to have an issue with it.
    My daughter calls us something along the lines of "errgerabbbah" at the minute, but we will likely be Mummy and Mama when she can manage that!

    If other people wish their kids to call them by their first names, that's their business not mine. Much better and more significant things to worry about it my life that if Joe and Jane Blogg's kids George and Mary call them Joe and Jane.

    1. Express10 profile image87
      Express10posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I agree in theory but at times the behavior isn't corrected + is forced upon others. If a child is not taught to address people properly, they will have needless difficulties + some of these same kids have many problems following rules + laws.

    2. jlpark profile image82
      jlparkposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      The thing is that calling their parents by their first names does not mean they will be rude kids. They are as capable of being raised to be respectful to others as children calling their parents mum and dad.

    3. Express10 profile image87
      Express10posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, this reality I do not deny. However, I do speak from seeing it in action that fairly often those who have no qualms about disrespecting family will easily (if not more so) disrespect those outside their family in various situations/settings.

    4. jlpark profile image82
      jlparkposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Why is it seen as disrespectful? Perhaps the parents prefer to be called their 1st name as a respectful term? It's not like the child is deciding + doing so against their wishes. I know very polite kids who use 1st names + rude kids who don't.

    5. Express10 profile image87
      Express10posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Acknowledging one's title shows recognition + appreciation of another's role/work, the very definition of respect. Not doing so is disrespectful whether the kid is a good or bad apple in other ways. Not doing so can be an insult or faux pas.

    6. jlpark profile image82
      jlparkposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      The choice of the parents to use name rather than title is not an automatic sign that the children will disrespect others. I'm sorry but being respectful is taught - not automatically known by using Ma + Pa.

    7. Express10 profile image87
      Express10posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I agree that respect is taught and acknowledging a person's role via title and properly addressing that person particularly when they are an elder is being respectful.

  5. Eric Calderwood profile image82
    Eric Calderwoodposted 4 years ago

    No, my kids call me dad. I think it sounds silly when someone calls their parent by their first name. It also lacks respect.

    1. Express10 profile image87
      Express10posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. My dad was always dad or daddy because I respected him and his role in my life. Never did it cross my mind to address him by his 1st name because it is disrespectful.

  6. Link10103 profile image73
    Link10103posted 4 years ago

    Dont see a problem with it either way. I cannot possibly conceive how it is disrespectful like someone mentioned earlier. I would think it would be the reverse, calling them "mom" and "dad" and not using their given name at birth would be disrespectful, although that is just as equally ludicrous to consider.

  7. peachpurple profile image84
    peachpurpleposted 4 years ago

    i call my parents ma or pa, never by their first names, disrespectful and ill-manner. Only siblings call each other by first name

  8. profile image0
    greeneyedblondieposted 4 years ago

    I've only heard of this with step-parents not birth parents or even adoptive parents. Where has this been happening?

    1. jlpark profile image82
      jlparkposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Anywhere - parents can choose to be known by their first names if they like. I'm in New Zealand, it's not common but it is done. Each to their own.

  9. Penny G profile image70
    Penny Gposted 3 years ago

    Calling parents by their first name seems disrespectful to the title they deserve.

 
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