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Do you ever visit a cemetary to talk to a departed friend or realitive?

  1. Joel Diffendarfer profile image94
    Joel Diffendarferposted 3 years ago

    Do you ever visit a cemetary to talk to a departed friend or realitive?

    Many times on television you see people visiting a cemetary or graveyard to talk to departed friends, loved ones, or family.  Do people really do this?

  2. lisavollrath profile image96
    lisavollrathposted 3 years ago

    I visit cemeteries to shoot photographs of old stones and monuments, and I often see people visiting graves, touching headstones, and changing flowers. Are they talking? I don't know. I give people who are paying their respects a wide berth, so as not to disturb them.

  3. profile image71
    win-winresourcesposted 3 years ago


    If it makes someone happy or provides solace, then by all means do it.

    Personally, no.  I do not believe there is anything of the friend or loved one left in a cemetery.  I can visit them in my memories, dreams or prayers.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    No, I've never done it but it does seem to work well in the movies! smile
    Personally I believe the spirit transitions out of the body at death. Therefore any conversation one has would be with a headstone.

  5. Opreme profile image65
    Opremeposted 3 years ago

    Many people visit cemeteries for departed loved ones. If you go to one, you will find people scattered throughout the stones visiting the monuments of their passed loved ones.

    My best friend recently committed suicide, it was only until then I understood why people visit the cemetery. As you can imagine the confusion of my friends suicide hit me, I doubted it many times, even to the point where I thought it was staged. Subconsciously I was searching for him, and the most likely place he was is buried beneath his headstone. His burial site was the closest I could get to him, at least physically. To imagine, he was just a few feet beside me. As I stated previously, these grave sites are that persons monument. A monument commemorates a person or event. When we wish to see our loved ones, the closest we can think to get, is where that persons physical body lie.

  6. hfortinberry profile image61
    hfortinberryposted 3 years ago

    Yes, people really do this, and While I respect others who do visit a cemetary to visit one who has passed on, I personally subscribe to a response of "Let the dead bury their dead."  This is probably just selfish though, because I would rather not be choked up and open any potential flood gates.  I would always prefer to just keep looking forward,and never behind.me.

  7. aesta1 profile image90
    aesta1posted 3 years ago

    Yes, we do. My husband and I do that with his parents. My sisters always visit our parents and sort of talk to them.

  8. brsmom68 profile image88
    brsmom68posted 3 years ago

    I think it is a personal choice, and my choice is to do so. I feel some comfort when I do so, even though I know it is only their body that lies there. My dad passed away suddenly less than six months ago, and I talk to him daily (once again, a comfort thing) although I do not drive the hour to the cemetery where he is buried.

    Each person has their own way of dealing with the loss of a loved one, and if visiting a graveyard and talking to them is what makes you feel better, then do it.

  9. peachpurple profile image83
    peachpurpleposted 3 years ago

    only on all souls day, we do talk to our departed relatives when we ray and talk

  10. Joe Fiduccia profile image61
    Joe Fiducciaposted 2 years ago

    I haven't lost too many close friends or family, but those that I have I most certainly try to make a point to stop and visit them.  But I believe they are always with me, at a cemetery or not.  So I talk to them pretty much everyday.  smile