It probably depends on one's culture, country, and traditions.
In the U.S. independence is encouraged for the most part. Oftentimes children who grow up in strict households are counting down the days until they graduate from high school to go away to college, get a fulltime job, or even enlist in the military if it means they can have their own place.
A 30 year old man who lives with his folks in the U.S. is not considered to be a real "catch" in the eyes of most women.
They will make an exception if the parents are super rich and the family resides in a mansion or family compound. Otherwise a 30 year old guy living with mom is considered a "loser" by a most people here.
Lots of people take pride in having (their own) apartment, a career, paying their bills, and not having to rely on their parents. With independence comes the freedom to live your life on your own terms.
Having said that there are some parents that make it awfully easy for their children to live at home for as long as they wish. They can come and go as they please, have overnight guests, stay rent free, have their meals cooked, clothes laundered, not have to clean house, or pay a single utility bill.
I've heard of some parents converting their basement into full on apartments including a bathroom as well as a private separate entrance. If the adult child has a job they use their money to buy expensive toys for themselves including cars they wouldn't be able to afford otherwise. Some parents dread the thought of an empty nest!
I think it would be irresponsible by 30 but I would not agree with kicking them out at 18 either
At age 18 I wanted out! LOL!
Living on a college campus and being "free" to make my own choices daily was priceless. I do think 18 is a good age for them to make a serious decision regarding their future, college, work, or whatever..
kicking them out wouldn't be fair.Giving them time is the solution
Timothy, Most people who want to go to college start (preparing) in their sophomore and junior year of high school. The same holds true for joining the military or attending trade school. We had years to think about it (before) we turned 18.
It depends on your culture and views too, in India people live in joint families which means children live with their parents even after their marriages and kids too.
There are cases where individuals live on their own too for working in other locations or for other reasons. but just because of they are adult now, this is not the reason to not live with parents.
Whereas in other countries adult do not live with their parents as its a culture not compulsion there.
Living together doesn't mean that they will not become or they are not responsible. if someone likes and happy to be with their parents then its amazing.
It all depends. There are some people who maintain that children should live with their parents until they are married. They portend that when young people live on their own, they are more susceptible to temptation and other vices. They feel that when young people live with their parents, they are less susceptible to such temptations with their parents to guide them. They furthermore contend that when young people live with their parents, there is a familial safety net which is not there when young people live alone.
There are young people who elect to live with their parents until their career and socioeconomic houses are in order. Oftentimes, young people are not socioeconomically ready to live on their own in their early 20s. Entry level salaries are not sufficient to pay for apartments which are expensive in comparison to such salaries. So they stay at home and save their monies and prepare for better careers so that one day they will be able to live on their own without any type of socioeconomic difficulties.
Then there are those who maintain that young people should live on their own as soon as they are adults. They assert that young people living on their own learn valuable life and survival skills which they would not learn if they continued to live with their parents. They also contend that young people who still live with their parents as adults are doing themselves a great disservice. They remark that such young people are psychologically immature and dependent upon their parents. They cite that such young people are not their own persons but must submit to the authority of their parents. They argue that these young people oftentimes do not have the freedom as their peers who live on their own.
You made some valid points. However as a woman when you were 30 would you have dated a 30 year old man who lived with his mom or dad?
It's my observation in the U.S. most women expect 30 year old boyfriends to have an apartment, maybe a roommate.
Yes that is such a big deal. My gosh. Get out of the house and live your own
I agree that it all depends on the culture, country and tradition. But I also think it IS a big deal. But it isn't always easy, though.
For example, I am 30 and I still can't go and live on my own. I have a well paid full-time job, but still I can't afford paying a rent and all the other expenses.
It is always a good thing to become independent as early as possible, but what if you live in a country where that thing is not technically possible?
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